Quietest Ever

[TurqoiseMaven]

I went to a life celebration. Out of respect for an immediate family member, to show my respect. I carpooled, due to gas prices, so I was there at the very beginning of it, like just when the starting time happened...

It was the quietest gathering I've ever been to in my life. And remember, the word celebration was attached to this event. I was there from beginning to end and you could hear a pin drop the entire time.

The host and relative would go to a corner and smoke, every once in a while, and I was like, "Are they making sure they can be as quiet as they can be, and reassurring each other on this fact, that it keeps going?...Quietly..."

The guy was anti-social. So, is that we celebrated? There was no reconnecting. It was no talking, barely whisper to you and to everyone else...I'll look at you from a-far, but don't talk to me, it is not allowed at this Celebration of Life, for four hours. Watched it start, watched it close, the whole day.

What did that family want out of a Celebration of Life? They would gather in the corner and tell each other how well they were doing at being as quiet as possible. (I can laugh about it now, but very perplexing to watch it IRL)

[TurqoiseMaven]

Thank you, and I was as quiet as I could be, I mirrored what I saw immedediately.

[Midori]

Sound very odd to me.

Cheers, Midori

[bethelbee]

Usually life celebrations are actually celebrating the the life of the person that passed. People conversing and sharing memories. I've never heard of one where nobody talks, but maybe that's what the family wanted.

[TurqoiseMaven in reply to bethelbee]

Thats what I'm saying and why I posted. I try to keep moving forward in life, learn and grow. It was like this whole family was stuck. I just stayed quiet along with everybody else until it was time to go. My expectations were way too high!

[Stippler]

That is kind of strange. We often have celebrations of life at my church. They are mostly people sharing with each other stories about the deceased, laughing and crying both, often at the same time. I am not real sure what to make of your experience.

[TurqoiseMaven in reply to Stippler]

Yah. Very strange. I was a guest and noticed the behavior immediately, so I mirrored what I saw to lessen the blow. I keep thinking of it, and I keep thinking that it's a family of sickness 'that I went to'. Like seriously, I can be calm, but not that calm.