Why are you so quiet

[Live4it20]

I swear it seems like I've been asked this SO much throughout my life! Not by everyone but at my past jobs and such people wondering why I'm quiet like it's a bad thing??? It makes me feel like there's something wrong with me like I should try and be like others but that's not me. Why should I try and be like others? I've always had a hard time making friends and being social; I talk but I guess I'm "awkward" at times according to some people, which sucks. If anyone has any advice or help that would be great. I feel alone alot because I don't have much support from my family and hardly any friends that understand me I guess you could say.

[Marshall64]

I don't really have any advice but I can relate to what you said. I get remarks like that because I'm quiet and am in my head a lot. I really don't socialize with people at work so I'm sure people think I'm antisocial. I feel awkward in social situations and sometimes when I do say something, I analyze what I just said wondering if it was something stupid to say.

[Live4it20 in reply to Marshall64]

Thanks for your response ! ☺️🙌

[Jamie2018]

Wow i could of wrote this its me to a tee. My high school yearbook where everyone signed it all starts with the same sentence " to the quietest girl i know". Sorry i dont have any advice for you but i know how it feels.

Im curious how you reply when asked.

I just kinda shrug and i can feel my face turn red.

[Kat63]

Maybe you should ask those people, “Why are you so talkative?”

We quiet people need to own it and be glad to be who we are.

[Live4it20 in reply to Kat63]

Haha true! Some people are just rude and try and put you on the spot though which isn't cool, we're all different!

[gleason9guy]

Sounds cliche, but just be yourself. Who else can you be? You will neither win anything more or have anything to lose by just being comfortable in your own skin.

[Live4it20 in reply to gleason9guy]

Very true! It gets easier with time and self acceptance. Buy I've just had people judge me on this alot and it made me feel like there was something wrong with me or something. Guess I gotta find better people... 🤷

[gleason9guy in reply to Live4it20]

Absolutely. Toss aside those toxic relationships. Gotta go deep to get to that point, but you can do it!

[Clhal1961]

My daughter is the same way, she has social anxiety and has read that being introverted is part of that.

[Sunnidayz1]

Sometimes people have too much to say and they dont mind their own business. So what ,u are quiet? It's nobody's business. Ok, maybe you think u need to work on your social skills, so what?, you are only human, nobody's perfect.

People used to ask me "why are you always so happy?"🙄

What???

Would you rather see me grumpy all the time?

What really matters the most is what you think about yourself.

[Live4it20 in reply to Sunnidayz1]

This is so true, just need to hear it from a third party sometimes. Thank you for replying

[Sunnidayz1 in reply to Live4it20]

Absolutely!

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I remember reading a book about Gandhi when I was in college. One of the chapters was titled "shyness my shield" and he credited his shyness in forcing him to give things careful consideration before speaking his mind. So many people just speak, without thinking things through.

I once had a communications professor tell me that it was great that I was shy and soft spoken, it would make people feel less threatened when I interviewed them.

Think about the pluses of shyness,they are out there.

[EEMO]

This is a reply in Reference to something else you said. Sometimes we think people are watching us. I don't know " We are Important but We are not that Important. I say that in a positive sense. Take the whip off your back. If they're watching you say Hello follow by Goodbye depending on your Feelings.

[EyesOfSadness]

I can relate. I’m quiet a lot around others it takes me a long time to warm up and even then I can be a bit quiet. The thing is I’m ok with it until someone mentions something about it which then makes me feel different and then alone .

[EEMO]

Once I feel comfortable, which I usually do for the most part. Im feeling in the zone aka will he ever shut up. Actually I feel comfortable but sometimes we just don't. Don't analyze move on.

[Live4it20 in reply to EEMO]

I'm not sure I understand all of what you said

[EEMO in reply to Live4it20]

Ill get back to you later, I wanted to say more. Be Good!!

[JLoInCali12]

Try reading Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain.

[rollingstone]

I feel the same way! People can say that about you but I feel like you just have to know who you are. People who call you quite don't even know you. And I always think the people who say that are pretty rude, they don't think of how the person will feel about that. You don't have to open up and be best friend with everyone you meet which is something I've learned myself especially at work. You're there to do your job and if you get along with people great, if you're more quiet or take more time getting comfortable with coworkers, that's okay too. Everyone has a different speed! Don't let people who tell you you're quiet get to you, they're just rude and they don't deserve the best of you if they wanna put you in that uncomfortable situation!

[EEMO]

Hope your feeling well.