Coloring

[WhoDatDere83]

So, I have ptsd and I have since I was a teenager. I struggled with accepting being gay but a lot of death has happened starting with the only boyfriend i ever had, which was a secret, so I couldn't even mourn properly. Anyways a lot more has happened since but I am finding ways to cope. My best friend got me a coloring book, and this seems to help me a lot. Sounds so weird, but it does help me express myself in a healthy way

[Swilly97]

That's an excellent activity! I've done it myself. I'm glad you shared, thank you. 🫂

[WhoDatDere83 in reply to Swilly97]

Ty, even sharing is difficult, as unfortunately, I am "blessed" with a picture perfect memory. I do not forget these events and never will, but would give anything to. I need things to get my brain off of it at times when I am feeling so sad

[Swilly97 in reply to WhoDatDere83]

I understand. You're not alone here. My wife has that kind of memory too. It definitely can be a curse at times. I'm glad you shared, I know it's tough.

[Swilly97]

It's beautiful btw, I love it 💛

[WhoDatDere83 in reply to Swilly97]

ty so much. I updated my profile, and telling it isn't easy but it is good for me according to my best friend, who is a doctor, so i just told the raw truth minus the things that could cause others more trauma here.

[fauxartist]

I'm sorry for your loss and angry with social stigma that wouldn't allow you the same decency and decorum to mourn the loss of your loved one. And now the clock is viciously being turned back on 'ALL' human rights. Keep voting and get these zealots out of office. Freedom doesn't mean for only a select few.

Oh, yes!....coloring books are great therapy.

[WhoDatDere83 in reply to fauxartist]

cooking is another thing aside from exercise that helps me. From time to time these memories haunt me and i fall apart though. I cannot agree more with your statement and i really appreciate , at least that others see it too

[fauxartist in reply to WhoDatDere83]

I looooove to cook to, just not been able too. But my herb garden is there when ever I'm ready...want to get some homemade lemon and fresh cracked pepper Linguine noodles made this winter for some shrimp and garlic with fresh basil....I miss it.

I've worked for the last 50 years for equal rights for all....and now everything has gone retro....I'm absolutely amazed at the level of ignorance and hate...after all these years.

[WhoDatDere83 in reply to fauxartist]

It is only getting worse. The funny thing is, i think labels are bad. "republican, deomocrat, gay, etc" we should just be "human". Now as for cooking, i also garden, those noodles sound amazing and i love love basil. I appreciate the work you have done for equality too.

[fauxartist in reply to WhoDatDere83]

Your exactly right....just human. I believe that has always really been my goal, to be without labels...and to be accepted for exactly who I am. I may have this or that, but that's health wise, that's all part of what make me whole. To have the intrusion of politics, ignorance, and people telling me what I can and can't be is monstrous. I just want to be happy, I've struggled with so much, and survived so much....I have no time for the sheer stupidity of marginalizing people for some political gain.

[WhoDatDere83 in reply to fauxartist]

You seem to think the same way i do. I love that. I very rarely meet others that think my way. Love one another, understand we all have struggles and problems we deal with. Empathy and respect can go so far

[fauxartist in reply to WhoDatDere83]

We all put our pants on the same way, (usually), one leg at a time.

[Nothing_but_books in reply to fauxartist]

Oh my goodness that sounds good! Your recipe?

[cowboylikeme]

So glad that you found healthy things to cope. And I’m sorry that you had to go through all of that. I hope you can still feel his love.

[WhoDatDere83 in reply to cowboylikeme]

Oh yes i do, that is something i wish, in some weird way, that i could stop. Going back to when my memory began, i remember everything too perfectly. I am on the spectrum and remember things picture perfectly, it is not healthy for me, at least in my opinion

[CLB1125]

I was told once to embrace every memory good or bad. Look for the good in each memory, and the good will eventually squeeze out the bad. I am working on this theory, kinda like it's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all. Glad you are here. we all are in the same boat one way or another so no one judges here.

[CLB1125]

I like your name, that sounds like yooper talk! I'm one of dem dare yoopers! lol