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My son will have his b day in a few weeks and my sister won’t let her kids come over because of how she feels about me. It sucks. My son has been so stressed about school so I had a meeting with psychologists and teachers and then his doctor... to be continued... nothing has happened yet. I’ve been so stressed I gained so much weight on Paxil and my hair is falling out in clumps again. My lip is twitching a lot since I woke up at 12 in the morning. Stress or med side effect that might never go away. Ugh I am running or walking every day at least once and lifting weights, and eating healthy, trying as I am barely breathing because of panic so much of the time. I was doing so well then bam so much fell down and is trying to bring me with it but I won’t go down I’m rising and doing all I can. I’m so done. I’m going to take all of this crap and throw it up in the air and let the heavens help me with all of these things. There’s just always going to be crap happening in life and we can always choose to go the way that is for health, healing and strength. If you are overwhelmed just try to focus on one thing at a time and stay in the present moment. Meditate or pray. Do the things that make you shine. I’m really looking forward to making my sons b day a blast for him. I am hoping. Never loose hope. There’s always a way.

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Hello again friend!!! So sorry that your son is going through so much, and for the way your sister is being towards you. I don’t know what this world is coming to sometimes. Know that I really do care about you.🙂

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I care about you too

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Livelydively

My sons birthday is coming up as well! He will be 11. How old will your son be?

I got a goal journal that I really love. I have been struggling to complete some of them but I am giving myself some grace.

Hugs and love sent your way.

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Starrlight in reply toLivelydively

He’s turning 10 :)

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I wish I could crawl through this screen and give you a huge hug. You have so much going on at once and I have been there more times than I can count. Everything at once raining down. I can't remember how old your son is but he will figure out the kind of person your sister is and decide what kind of relationship he wants to have with her. That's what happened with my kids and they had decided long before they were adults. Is the Paxil working for you? If it is then try not to worry about the weight. I have taken Effexor for years. I couldn't tolerate alot of other meds and ended up on Effexor. My doctor monitors my weight but I have stayed pretty steady. Maybe you should talk to your doctor about the weight gain and other issues you are having. I'm sure your son's birthday will be amazing and am always here for you. I remember well how stressful it was when my kids were in school. Message me anytime you need to. HUGS❤

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You are soooooo sweet!

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I have been where you are. My husband has always worked the night shift so as odd as it sounds I raised my children a great deal of the time as if I was a single parent. As you know I also have a toxic sister. So I relate to what you are facing now. I am always here. Someone to listen or someone to cheer you on and remind you that you are doing a good job. Try to hang in there. ❤

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Starrlight in reply toMrspjsmom

I so appreciate you! I’ll try to remember I can pm you if I need to and same to you pm any time.

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"Do the things that make you shine!" That seems to be good advice, but I don't even remember what that might be. I'm afraid all my "talents" are no longer operable after these crashes and new meds. Maybe I'll just focus on cleaning my office. I don't have to be especially naturally good at anything to do that, and it will make me feel better.

I'm sorry things are hard with your son and your meds right now. It sounds like you have a good philosophy!

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Thanks so much! Yes clean ha that’s what I need to do too I keep putting it off until I feel better.

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So sorry that you’re going through this right now. I know how you feel and I pray things will get easier for you soon❤️

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Thank you so!

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Always have a Plan B Wishing your son a great birthday. :) xx

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Like what? Plan B for what? I’m curious

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By having other options when life hands us lemons.Your post said it very well with staying in the moment.

Not allowing a disappointment to bring you down. Look forward

and stay positive. I have no doubts that your son will have the best

birthday ever whether your siste'rs kids come or not.

Never give up, always believe there are choices in life. :) xx

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Hello again Agora, I really needed to hear that too!!! You don’t know how much!!! I’m having another very tough day today. I’m meeting with a social worker on March 3rd to start a process to get me into semi-independent living. It is a process that will probably take months. There’s not too much else I can do but play a waiting game. These are times that try peoples souls.

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You can get through it. I know it’s hard to care about something and not sure how it will work out but eventually things tend to work out

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The process may take some months but look at it this way, in that youno longer will be standing still not knowing which way to go. Things worth

while in life take time but so worth the effort.

I wish you patience and positive attitude during this wait. This is your Plan B

in getting out of your parent's home. Believe in that :) xx

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I love that Beautiful Agora!!!!! I’m doing quite well now and know my plan B now and C and so on... there are so many positive ways to get back to being grounded. Thanks for the reminder! How are you?

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I am doing well thank you dear xLife is Good but remember Life is what we make it :) xx

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Thank you!!!!

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Thank you!!!!!

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Then try to trust and think of how you want things to be- creative visualization- it’s worth a shot. I believe that it can be manifested by believing in what you want to be/happen

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Oh I’m so sorry about your pain. Sending love and healing vibes ((((((((((

Have you been to a doc?

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The little dot in this picture was the only ⭐️ In the sky this am :) Made me think of you.

❤️🐬

Beautiful ⭐️
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Awww you are so beautiful my soul sister. Thank you! This touches my heart.

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I went out in the winter cold in bare feet to capture that for my ⭐️ :)

Here's another one of the beautiful sky

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Sunrise
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