ok.....I think we need to have this reminder

[mizzou7016]

While i was responding to another post....I came across something that is very important and crucial to our getting better......not only is it ok to put yourself on your priority list.....it is necessary...I struggle to remember this...I feel good when i help others....but at the same time.....I neglect myself....we need to work on ourselves too......and it is okay to focus on ourselves....

[Agora1]

Absolutely important that we take care of ourselves as well mizzou.

Without doing that, we have nothing to give to another. Great Post xx

[mizzou7016 in reply to Agora1]

I always feel like i have something to give others....my biggest struggle is putting in to self practice...what i tell others to do.....my intentions are always good.....but sometimes i feel hypocritical because I don't "practice what i preach"

[Agora1 in reply to mizzou7016]

mizzou, it's always easier to give advice then to take it.

However, the day you "practice what you preach" will be

the day your life changes for the better. Afterall, we learn

from our own experiences in life. Happy Sunday xx

[mizzou7016 in reply to Agora1]

trust me when I say that I'm a lot better than I used to be...I've got more self confidence....i've got more resiliency. i am overall in a lot better spot

[Agora1 in reply to mizzou7016]

You've Got This mizzou xx

[mizzou7016 in reply to Agora1]

only thing that would make it a little better for me is if there were like 4-6 more hours in each day...it's funny that sometimes I am a speedboat flying through life....sometimes i feel like the boat anchor....dragging myself and everyone else down....but the main thing is is that i don't quit

[CLB1125 in reply to mizzou7016]

that's a great analogy! I feel the same way.

[mizzou7016 in reply to CLB1125]

the key is to not be the anchor for too long....I'm trying very hard to instill the as long as I am blessed with waking up..i can conquer the day mantra...try to be upbeat and positive...but some days it's just not possible

[AnxiousSilver in reply to mizzou7016]

"I always feel like i have something to give others....my biggest struggle is putting in to self practice...what i tell others to do.....my intentions are always good.....but sometimes i feel hypocritical because I don't "practice what i preach""

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I said this a few times to others here in the past, that I never want to come off as a hypocrite to anyone here.

I struggle a lot with writing posts.

I keep asking myself if, "I'm being a hypocrite" before I hit my replies, and that sometimes/usually puts me into, "Overthinking mode".

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It's frustrating, because sometimes I have really good advice for people, (mainly things that I learned from my previous support group) but I edit and edit and overthink and I can't post unless it feels right. (and that I don't want to feel like a hypocrite with what I just wrote)

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It's that constant struggle of trying to help others, (with good intentions) but at the same time I'm still far from recovered.

IDK if this makes any sense, but it makes a lot of sense for me at the moment.

[mizzou7016 in reply to AnxiousSilver]

It definitely makes sense and I understand. I don't ever struggle with helping others. Feel good after. Struggle with helping myself

[Swilly97]

Same here. I sometimes forget to eat. That actually happened today. Taking care of ourselves is crucial especially with mental illness. Thank you for the reminder ✨️

[CLB1125 in reply to Swilly97]

I wish I would forget to eat! all I do is eat! ever sit and cry eating a bowl of corn flakes? that's why I'm so overweight. I keep telling myself I'm going to stop it and walk every day. then I look in the mirror and say why bother? I will still be sad and ugly....

[mizzou7016 in reply to CLB1125]

I used to cry over everything....and then eat away my feelings...

[Swilly97 in reply to CLB1125]

I'm sorry. You are valued. I feel the same way. My therapist told me to look in the mirror everyday bc I avoid it and, I did but gosh it's hard. When I look now, I do something to improve myself like tweeze my eyebrows or something. It doesn't always work but I gotta try right.

[mizzou7016 in reply to Swilly97]

I have adopted the if I am blessed to wake up each morning....I can navigate through anything life throws at me attitude....some days i do good...some days i just go through the motions...but i just don't ever quit....

[Swilly97 in reply to mizzou7016]

I get it. Be strong, our minds play tricks on us ya know? Mine does several times a day. I need a kick in the butt!

Going through the motions is better than doing nothing right? You're trying, give yourself that credit.

Hugggggggg

[Dolphin14]

Perfect message. It took me years to figure this out.

Caring for others gives a nice feeling. But caring for myself makes me a happier person

🐬

[mizzou7016 in reply to Dolphin14]

I agree....but my problem is is that I get so focused on helping others....that i don't focus on me....again i've gotten a lot better at making myself a priority.....but when you've done something the same way for so long...it gets hard to do something different

[Dolphin14 in reply to mizzou7016]

Believe me I understand this completely . When I started to do things for myself it felt foreign and wrong.

I will always be a caretaker of others but I've learned that there is enough " me time"

Keep working it and you will hopefully reach a point where you feel comfortable taking time for yourself

[mizzou7016 in reply to Dolphin14]

I am getting comfortable....it makes me feel good....just not used to doing it...it's starting to become 2nd nature....my confidence is building

[Dolphin14 in reply to mizzou7016]

Fabulous news

[CLB1125]

I forget that. I am so worried about everyone else and think I’m not important enough to anyone to worry about myself.

[mizzou7016 in reply to CLB1125]

and that is my biggest problem....why don't I give myself the same consideration that I do everyone else...I've gotten better at it....but i've still got a long way to go

[mizzou7016 in reply to CLB1125]

and there is 1 person that you should think that you are important enough for and that is you...

[Thankfulforhelp22]

Amen!

[mizzou7016 in reply to Thankfulforhelp22]

It definitely feels different....but it's good too....