Always Alone

[Melody717]

Do you ever feel alone even when surrounded? I've been feeling that way a lot lately. I feel like nobody is there to help and support me, even if my friends say that they care.

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Are you reaching out to your friends in times of need? Do you give them a chance to care for you?

[LoveforAll41]

Hi Melody, that is a very hard feeling to deal with. As a child I remember thinking that everyone around me was an alien or that I was, somehow I was fundamentally different than everyone else on earth. I think it comes from not feeling understood. It is really easy to feel misunderstood or alone that way if other people have not experienced mental illness.

Could you ask your friends for support in some specific way that would help you feel close? There are lots of resources that try to explain depression and anxiety for people too that maybe they could have a look at. I think an online group such as this is good to feel understood, and I think an in-person group would be even better. I wish you peace, hope, and strength in your journey.

[mizzou7016]

just be true to yourself....the right people will help you and support you.....

[MaineOtter]

I understand and can relate. Please realize that it is easy to be misunderstood, and not to understand other people’s opinions or viewpoints. Recommending to make sure you truly understand other people’s viewpoints, and where they are coming from. Also try to make sure you explain yourself, your opinions and where you’re coming from and your needs. This is easier said than done, but please try. I have made many mistakes misinterpreting people, and not explaining myself properly. This won’t solve everything but it will help. Please don’t give up, there are good people out there that care. Also please pray to Heavenly Father for help. He loves you and wants to hear from you.

[PuzzleArt]

Loneliness is a "big deal", one of the most difficult forces to deal with. That is my opinion, from my experience. We could ask the question though...why would we make it worse by blaming ourselves? Reaching out to this support group is a good start, but, of course, it doesn't solve a lack of seeing people in person. It takes me a while to realize I have been alone for too many days in a row, and we can also feel even more alone even when with people. I seem to have a delayed reaction, because I have more tolerance for being alone, I think, than most. I have many distractions, not always fun, but actions needed for survival, and I also have some positive activities and thinking that can keep me busy. But, being "busy" is not the solution. I eventually come face to face with being alone far too much. I was working on getting out of the house to places to see people in person. That was before I had a serious injury that complicated geting out. I had been in a hospital, then care home and was more isolated when I got home. I am back working on the "project" of reducing loneliness now, and I have to first realize it that finding yourself alone is not due to some huge defect in your personality or crime you have committed against "humanity". That takes finding a balance. Yes, we are human and not perfect, and should not be "lording" it over others, or be dominating. However, we are not supposed to be inferior, either, or blaming ourselves all the time. It is hard work to find a balance, and I have to settle for some progress that seems slow, because we,in my opinion, have to take it easy on ourselves at the same time. Quite a balancing act, but progress is possible!