Emotionally burnout😣😔

[pratyaya_23]

I knw we cant judge our parents, its not right thing to do!! But I am failed to understand why there is always emotional blackmailing? Born as an eldest child is not less than curse, itna jayada responsibilities to fulfill their expectations. They just dont think before saying/asking to do something.... n no matter whatever u r trying to bring smile on their face, just one no from my side n i suddenly become the worst person on this earth!! I wish younger borns, too , grow old / become mature n adults in the eyes of parents...huh!! #tired #burnout

[Marysblue]

Trying to figure out my dysfunctional family is impossible.Be kind to yourself when you're having a rough time. That is something I struggle to do. I wasn't shown how to do that in my family. Gotta take care of me, no one elses job.

[richitadutta]

Hey, you have shown a bad habit of saying yes to everything. That has made them think that you will never say no and always available for what they want from you. You should try to talk with them and make them understand that you are also a human and have your own moods & way of doing things. You should also talk with your younger siblings so that they can also support you, like you support them.

[CLB1125]

my mother was a pro at guilt trips! If you didn’t do what she wanted she could make you feel so bad! It affected my whole life. I didn’t know how to say no to anyone without guilt. That ended up with me being a very unhappy person most of my life. People learn real fast they can minipulate you to do anything to please them. You end up unhappy and depressed. I don’t know how old you are so I’m not going to say to disrespect your parents. But it is okay to ask to discuss it. Tell them how you feel.

[pratyaya_23 in reply to CLB1125]

M 46......its hard to explain her!!

[CLB1125]

God no you are not alone!! That’s why we’re all here! My dad was a hard worker gone from daylight to dark so my mother was in charge of everything at home. God help you if you went against her!! She would mess with your mind! She could weeks without acknowledging your presence. So I tried to please her and everyone else. I lived in an abusive marriage telling myself if I did everything he wanted he would treat me better. But it doesn’t work that way. I’m now married to a good man but he is condescending, and I’m afraid to stand up to him. He does the silent treatment thing and throws me right back to my mother. So here I am, over 60 years old still trying to figure it out !!

[CLB1125]

No you’re not talking too much, that’s why we’re here. Talking to people who understand. I grew up in the country on a farm. When I was younger I had my cousins to hang out with but as we got into our teens they were off doing their own stuff so I was alone. I never socialized with kids from school. Never had a ride to town. I was the youngest of 4 my sisters were married and gone and my brother did his own thing. So most of the time it was me and my mother. She was a cold woman. I was never physically abused as a kid just mind games. I think I spent most of my high school years in my room. A lonely life indeed. I internalized everything . Maybe that’s why I talk to myself so much. I was the only who listened!! 🤷‍♀️ I’m still alone a lot and that’s how I want to be now. I don’t like people around me. I’ll take my animals over humans any day.