I need some reassurance

[Against_the_current]

I need help. I couldn't find a place. The terrible person who offers places under rent, made me walk through the entire city with my agoraphobia and in the heat and when I haven't eaten anything. Wondering whether to give up on searching and whether to go see mom and sis for a while or i would relapse. Panicing and unable to eat and overthinking

[CLB1125]

I’m sorry that happened to you. Try to eat something. We tend not to be able to think straight when we’re hungry. I think you should try one more time before you give up. In my opinion going back to moms is going to set you back. I know you miss them but you came this far. You can do this, I know you can.

[SoporRose in reply to CLB1125]

I also have faith in you. Looking for a place to live is so hard and takes so much mental and physical energy. Have you been able to come up with a list of what you need in an apartment for the agents that might prevent them from making you schlep to places that are wrong for you? Would it help to tell us here what you need and want in an apartment?

[PuzzleArt]

I was thinking about you yesterday, and wondering how you were doing. One thing I can't picture is what system you have there for real estate. I can't quite understand how you got to neet that agent or "semi-friend"?? I was a real estate agent for a year, and it was supposed to be an advantage for us at the time, to have a new, roomy car, so that the customer could be comfortable, and also be kind of under our control as we drove around to look at houses, to give us a chance to do our sales pitch. 🤫🤭 Of course, you were looking for a rental, not to buy. I was hoping you wouldn't be involved in a process where you had no control over the length of time spent, or choice of how fast you had to go from one place to another. From where I am, and how little I know, I had no idea you would have to do everything in one day, with no chance to rest. I have a lot of questions I didn't have before. Is there any way you can break up this one main project into smaller steps? Is there some reason you have to hurry and do everything in one day? I am sensing that you don't have a lot of people you can trust, that is, who can be e in an honest two-way conversation. Well, that is okay, it only takes one or two people, and you still have a chance to meet someone like that. Have you ever heard anything about "assertiveness training" or "boundaries". Also I feel you really need to keep focusing on taking care of yourself at the same time you are working on a project. You have some areas where you are strong, and other times when you need to treat yourself gently and take care. Finding a new place isn't easy for anyone. Even if they have moved many times, and been successful before. By any chance have you ever heard of the book entitled: "I'm running away from Home but am afraid to Cross the Street!" It was popular a while back. Fear can be dealt with. You can develop your own methods of solving problems, and it won't require you to be Superwoman. You might have to learn a few defenses that will work for you, only able to feel safe for a very short time at first, then gradually a onger time. You are to be commended for trying so hard, and for taking such a brave step forward into what sounds to me to be a risky space, with whoever that character was! It can take the same courage as it does for an astronaut blasting off into outer space.