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[PeaceNeed]

Im stuck in mental health system that doesnt help anyone and in a few years mite leave me homeless in the most expensove city on earth.I read about old people being abused and neglected.

This country no good to older adults with mental problems.

[Agora1]

Keep coming here Lonepain. We're here 24/7 and are Free

We may not be professionals but the experiences we have all

been through can help support you through your tough times.

The light is always on xx

[Vasiliki99]

Terrible it's best to think about distractions solutions and people who can talk to you, UK we gotlot charities they might do something or think to do it other way do some volunteer work on phone u do not have to leave your house or internet lots of charities need survey done and or people called or seen like befriending etc in a way it's the best way to ignore your own issues. ? Maybe maybe not. Best wishes,

[PeaceNeed in reply to Vasiliki99]

Thank you for responding.

[PeaceNeed]

Thank you for your kind words. I once drew a picture of a homeless person for an art show, I entitled it , "Shame on Us All".

[Vasiliki99 in reply to PeaceNeed]

That's true , we can't cut it we just alone and we don't get along

[Vasiliki99 in reply to PeaceNeed]

It's a broken world

[Midori]

You have come to a good place; we can support you, we have all been deep in the muck at times; Some are still getting the mud off and some of us are further along in our recoveries from the various traumas we have had.

Give us a chance to help you.

Cheers, Midori

[PeaceNeed in reply to Midori]

Im in it deep. Every thing Ive tried to do to get out of it has only made things worse.I come off as so negative no one wants to be aroumd me.

[Vasiliki99 in reply to PeaceNeed]

Don't worry being unhappy is normal best wishes

[PeaceNeed in reply to Vasiliki99]

Im way past unhappy. But, thanks for getting back to me. I need a change of enviornment. I live in a sh__t h_le high crime ridden neigb in a supported apt with no services.

[Vasiliki99 in reply to PeaceNeed]

What's supported apartment? Is it like some one helps you all , but is it good ? Is there any possibility? There is so much stuckness everything everyone everywhere

[Vasiliki99 in reply to PeaceNeed]

Try instincts

[Midori]

People draw away when we exhibit depression and neediness; as if it's catching.

To a greater or lesser extent our 'cure' is in our own hands. We can go to therapists and psychiatrists, but ultimately we have to do it for ourselves, The meds and the talking therapies are basically 'crutches', until we find ourselves able to throw them away and stand up by ourselves again.

It will happen, it did for me, and It will for you. I'll tell you a bit about me. I was married to a violent man, and had two children with him. Everything according to him was my fault, I put up with it for 15 years, and eventually, when he started on the children, I took them and ran for our lives.

Long story short, when he found out I would not return until he got some Psych help, he suicided. His family blamed me and even accused me of murdering him, despite the fact I was 60 miles away with no method of travel. The next few years were hellish, but I made it because I couldn't leave the kids.

After about ten years, I realised that the voice inside my head was parroting all the mean and nasty things he used to say about me and accuse me of. I got so angry that I cussed and swore like a sailor and told it to get the heck out of my head, and it did, for about a week, then it tried to come back and I gave it both barrels again. Eventually it gave up, and I began to feel better about Life.

Cheers, Midori.

[Vasiliki99 in reply to Midori]

Hmm I just presume from having done deep work on myself that our selfishness is difficult for us but we have no other answers or crutches and we are stuck all of us in unsatisfactory days I'm tired of pain and my anger but I manage it well , life is , nothing else is true

[PeaceNeed in reply to Vasiliki99]

There is an old saying....Life is a bi__ch and then u die. I agree with the former and look forward to the latter.

[PeaceNeed in reply to Midori]

Thank you for response. Your experience was traumatic. I commend you for surviving it.In my case much damage has been done by those who I went to for help. In plain speaking terms..I was hit in the head by my crutch.

The mental health help is there only ig you can afford it. I live in U.S.

[Midori]

I take the position that Nobody is going to break me, my husband came close, but he failed, and it has made me irredeemably Independent.

Also now being physically disabled irks me and intensifies the determination. There is a wheelchair lurking in the Garage, (been there about 10 years now, will not be used until I prove to myself that I need it!), My son is my official carer, but if I waited for him to get moving I'd never get stuff done!

Cheers, Midori