Any students, anxious about leaving their families? I need support

[Against_the_current]

I haven't eaten since i came. I'm alone and afraid. I want my mom even though she drinks. I worry about my sister outgrowing me. I don't know what to do with my life. 19-22 i was okay living alone but at 23 i feel like i can't take care of myself. I start master's degree on 1st oct. This Sunday courses. 13th sep applying for master's. I need to calm myself and probably know i can go back when needed. I'm paralyzed

[BrmhmR]

I have some worries about going back to university in a different city from home again in September. That's because being alone and studying too much for the past two years took a toll on my mental state quite severely. I'm afraid a little about whether I will face the same difficulties again and not realise till it's too late

Even though I'm making my own personal guides on not repeating the same mistakes, the fear is still there as I do not want to fall into a decline again but I know what I must do differently.

I guess the only way to find out is to go for it with this new perspective on what to do this time to avoid being lonely and falling into the depths. We are sat worrying in our minds when reality could potentially be completely different in a good way.

Journaling helps me overcome doubts, worries and issues. Maybe you could try write down what you are worrying about to highlight the main concerns or future events you want to avoid and then write a strategy to overcome them if they appear or to prevent them from ever happening as best as you can.

[Against_the_current in reply to BrmhmR]

Thank you for sharing. I thought im the only not freshers scared. I'm sure you're going much better than me. Reach out if you need anything

[SoporRose]

AtC,

It sounds as if you really need to get out of where you’re staying, whether that’s to a new place or back to your mom’s. I hope you can find something to eat that appeals to you.

Take as much care of yourself as you can!

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

Neither is an option

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

People don't realise im sick. They just think im an adult. I can't afford a place and idk what i will do back at mom's while she's working and sis studying. If i stay doing nothing, i will be an easy victim to their moods and a burden

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

You ARE an adult. Don't let anyone take that from you. Adults need care, support, and assistance.

May we brainstorm about how you might make living with your mom and sister bearable or would that be too much pressure? I'm very concerned about how you don't eat at your accommodation.

[catmousefish in reply to SoporRose]

I found out I was an adult when going to College the restroom sign said women. (instead of girls) and I thought to myself, I must be a woman now. (I was 17).

[SoporRose in reply to catmousefish]

That's delightful! I was all of eighteen when I went to college. Our dorms were co-ed so I had no sign on the bathroom to inform me about my new status. I never thought about that lack of signifier before.

[CLB1125]

You can do this!! If you are working towards a masters you are a smart cookie!! Self care is very important. We have drinks here that are people who aren’t getting enough energy/nutrition, my mom drank them when she was old. One is called ensure and another one is basics. Maybe you can find something like that to at least get some nutrition. A grocery store or a pharmacy should have them.

If you can’t find another place is there anything you can do at the accommodation you’re at now to make it nicer? Maybe putting your energy into fixing up your space will take your mind off things. One day at a time, we are here to support you. You can send me a chat whenever you want to.