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Night time loneliness.

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Or more loneliness in general because i can't deny its something thats been battling on in my mind. But at night is when it hits the hardest.

There are only so many times to remind myself "i will be okay"

But the ache inside thats is loneliness is powerful on nights like tonight.

And i wish for people to never feel this feeling but sadly i am not alone with feeling this.

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No, you're not alone in your feelings. I feel the same way on some days more than others. Sometimes it feels great to be alone, sometimes it's simply terrible. Do you have a therapist or do meditation or anything? Idk, it helps me occasionally to talk about my feelings to a stranger. Meditation helps because well, you're alone and that's the best time imo. Keep coming here, we're always around. Hugs

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I'm sorry that you too feel the same way, and you're right in sometimes it great to be alone and other times it is not, its the same with somedays are bad and some days are not. I am on a waiting list for therapy, so it something i try keep in mind for the time being.

Thank you for your reply and making me feel less alone.

Sending you hugs back! :)

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I'm glad for you that you're going to try therapy, that's a good step!

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Thank you again!! 😊

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hopeforjoy

I'm so sorry for your feelings of such loneliness -- please know you can always check in here with us to find at least someone to connect with. I'm hoping you find someone to link up with in a deeply meaningful way!

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Thank you for your reply and your words :)

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Shan I understand, I find nighttime the most difficult as well. I don’t know if it’s the quiet and lack of distraction but it’s when I miss having my kids around the most. I find audiobooks helpful to distract me and often fall asleep listening to them, keeps me from dwelling on how I am feeling. Best of luck to you and keep sharing.

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I'm sorry that you could relate, and i guess that it can be the perfect environment (night time) for your thoughts to drift in and out and it can be a nightmare. But I'm glad that you have found audiobooks to be helpful for you, do you listen to anything in particular? Thank you for your wishes and reply, sending you the same back :)

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I have been lonely most of my life. Here's a dissertation on how many ways to be lonely. My most repetitive loneliness phrase is no one cares. No one is there. They don't see me lonely. They're not interested if I'm lonely. I'm lonely with my lonely self. You can reach out and share things with people in a friendly way, but if they don't share anything back they leave you lonely. You can be lonely in a crowd more lonely than when you're alone, because no one is noticing that you're there better to be alone than have lots of people around you who don't acknowledge your existence. Sometimes strangers are more friendly and will share a feeling or story with you, more care than the people that you know. I have no family anymore they have all gone away, they have forgotten I exist. How do I deal with my loneliness? I get up get dressed and go out the door and wander around all day among people, at least they are there, and sometimes if you look strangers in the eye and smile, you might strike up an interesting conversation which takes the loneliness away for that moment of sharing. There are many many lonely people out there looking for some comfort, even temporary.

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Leftbehind - I cannot begin to say just how much i related with what you've written here. Sometimes it really feel like no one really cares and therefore why should i? But i'm slowly learning that i care (not greatly or very well) for myself. I like being alone but can't deal with being lonely, but yet haven't spent my life constantly surrounded by people.

Your outlook on it when you get dress and get out the door and walk among people, whom can be just a lonely and seeking comfort, even if temporary really struck something in me.

Thank you for your reply, thank you for your words, it really has helped me feel less alone with feeling this way.

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Trainchaser

The post was 9 days ago and I hope your nights are better for you

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Shanm2 in reply to Trainchaser

Thank you, unfortunately not much improvement but sometimes staying away from my phone helps focus my mind :)

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Sorry to hear that. I have had sleep issues in the past and know what a pain in the ass it can be

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I'm sorry that you've experienced sleep issues but also glad to know it passed for you. Pain in the arse is an understatement 😅

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Shanm2, You may be physically alone, but you are never really alone in this world. You have impact on every person that you interact with. Savor those moments.

If you are talking more about an intimate relationship, I have always had the strong belief in finding a friend, first. Look for a group that meets over a common interest. Don't have a hobby? Try some new things. I took up watercolor painting last year.

Can you renew an old friendship just with a quick online message? Go for it. Afraid of rejection? Don't be. Their loss.

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Lazy-dog-lover, reminding me of the impact on everyone i interact with and to savour those moments was something i needed to see today!Looking for a friend first seems like the best place to start, the idea of jumping into a relationship terrifies me! But connecting is less scary. The last line of "Afraid of rejection. Don't be. Their loss." Spoke volumes!

Funnily enough i too have gotten into water colour paintings lately and have been finding it difficult compared to acrylic paint.

Thank you, so, so much for your reply and words!

(P.s. Hope the painting brings you as much joy as it does me!)

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Yes, watercolor is opposite of acrylic. Light colors go first.

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Thank you for the tip! :)

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