I feel like a mess

[Galon]

This is the peak of my depression, what should i do... the appointment with my therapist is still one week ahead from now

[just_keep_swimming]

why is this your peak ( if you don’t mind sharing ) ? Have you tried any techniques like maybe doing something small you like or trying to focus on one good thing and practicing mindfulness .

[Galon in reply to just_keep_swimming]

Yes i have. Thank you so much, your comment makes me feel seen. ❤️🙌

[Hominid711]

Galon, what gets you down right now? How did it start? Can you tell us more?

[Galon in reply to Hominid711]

I'm now fine Hominid, i thank God. Thank you for your concern too Hominid. May you have a good day today. 🙌❤️

[Hominid711 in reply to Galon]

Any time, Galon! Have a lovely day yourself today. And focus on the fact that YOU are actually pulling yourself out of the swamp - by having made an appointment☝🏻! I always use a "what if?" flowchart. Imagined, going through it in my mind, or at times pen on paper. Then I pin it to my bathroom door with a dangling pen or wherever else I can see it easily and frequently and/or add to it when passing by it or sitting or lying in bed. Example: What if I get suddenly depressed < yes/no. Under yes I write, go onto forum and check people's experiences with what troubles me/write a new Help!-post and/or ring crisis line, count down days/hours to appointment etc and try if I can sleep as tiredness can also make you feel low, slightly unwell and uninspired, Or What if I'm ok? Find helpful videos, go outside for a long and fast walk or the gym or call around for a sports buddy if someone wants to play football or badminton etc, call a parent, sibling, friend (most people like to have a chat on the phone), WhatsApp some of your WhatsApp contacts, ask them how they are and check for answers later (most people like a WhatsApp message), whatever is good and helps in the longer term. Consider taking the bull by the horns and talking to your manager or boss about how you feel and, if there are any and you can articulate them, the underlying reasons. See everything as YOUR work and be generous with praising yourself, but try not to get down and depressed from not doing anything at all some days. But make sure that you see everything you do to help yourself as an investment in your better future as you get to know yourself. Time is on your side, my mate! Be proud and proud of yourself! You are still so young. You can still mould your life. It's never ever too late.It helps to make new friends, and especially to get to know an older person to talk to. Like an old wise grandmother or grandfather. For their experience with life and their wisdom. To reassure you about the future, to get ideas from, for mutual benefit. Older people usually LOVE to have contact with young ones. I have myself such people in my life (2 aunts in their 80ies whom I can always call unless they have their naps 😉) and it helps a lot, both, talking with them as well as knowing they exist and are there for me. Honestly, I can tell you. It also keeps me grounded and connected. And of course we both listen to each other. They have a lot of time and patience for me and love it when I visit. Kids on the other hand ie nephews/nieces/friends' kids can be great as they are usually active, like you to play with them, listen to them or discuss things. They may need help qith reading or maths and they love stories and word play. You may find that you really enjoy that and that teaching is your thing. They can always distract you and make you laugh. I always feel so much better after just a chat with a kid and parent on the bus and obviously even more so after an afternoon with them. And parents are happy if they get respite for a few hours. Think about volunteering if you don't have kids and older people in your circle of friends, family, neighbours. These are "life tips" and are a very natural way to help yourself and can be maintained. Just a couple of hours a week. More if you want. I've done everything of what I can recommend myself and promise you it works! Remember we used to live in groups, tribes, multiple generations under one roof, had lots of friends and some enemies amongst our people but always someone to talk to, cook with, play with, work with. No wonder we often feel lonely and depressed/anxious. We need to create new little worlds or cosmoses around us to replace our villages or neighbourhoods or families. Choirs are good, cooking course, other classes, group sports, dance class, work in a cafe, whatever we can imagine at least trying out.

That is for when you are well enough. But thinking about it, perhaps writing it down, signing up to something and going at least once or twice, all that helps.

Remember: you are still SO young! Thinks get much better as you get older (I'm 57 and it's also been scientifically researched). All the best, my friend!

[hopeforjoy]

Fingernails ... even if only by your fingernails, keep hanging on and continue to tell your heart to keep hope alive! Always know you can come keep coming back here for encouragement.

[Galon in reply to hopeforjoy]

Thank you so much. 🙌❤️

[bethelbee]

Can you see your regular doctor for a visit or maybe call a support line or crisis line. You don't have to be in crisis to call a crisis support line. I've done it before and it really helped just to talk to someone. Don't know where you live, but I am in the states and my county has a great peer support line and also a great crisis support line.

[designguy]

You might try looking at youtube and videos of ASMR for relieving stress and anxiety, I find them to be soothing and relaxing.