When Do We Hit It?

[SurvivingEveryday]

What is rock bottom, really? I mean, I know that and "who are we?" is the existential question we all grapple with. But, when you have lost "everything," when do you know you have hit that rock bottom?

This is what I am struggling with today, and a lot recently. I had a successful life in my childhood, had to unexpectedly move. My early adult years were good, and got great, then I unexpectedly had to move. My marriage and life was everything I wanted, then it ended, and I had to unexpectedly move.

Each time I thought I hit rock bottom, I climbed up and got off it. I am no longer sure who I actually am, what I want to do, and feel like every door I open reveals a brick wall. It just gets worse and worse.

When do we actually hit rock bottom? Do we know?

[Hidden]

Coping - you have to grow and learn you are much more and your past is past and to live in present

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to Hidden]

thank you!

[012703060610]

Wow, your story is much like mine. I feel literal rock bottom are for those people that are homeless and truly helpless in so many countries. I find this grounding at times when I feel all is lost. There are too many people disadvantaged across the globe and suffering. So I feel a lot of empathy for them. However, all of us here are here for support and for true medical issues surrounding our mental health. Finally, mental health is becoming seen, noticed, and treated far more than previous generations.

For many of on this site, we feel we are at rock bottom and are here for that purpose. Living the present as Vonus suggests is really the best way, but we have to conquer those demons first. I'd say our paths are very similar with the exception of some physical medical issues on my end. Lost marriage, drastic sudden move, had job/lost due to health, Mom in hospice, etc. So I do feel at rock bottom, but if I reflect on others, I'm not.

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to 012703060610]

Thanks for your reply, and your story. I must say...we have very very similar things happening. I, too, have lost my marriage, drastic move, lost my job, and have been living on my parent's property broke. If you ever want to chat, let me know. I feel for ya.

[Chasbearcat999]

Your profile says that you are 35. That is a very transitional time in people’s lives. The goodbyes and losses become more frequent. Time and a sense of our own mortality become far less abstract.

So I can’t answer the rock bottom question. For me it was when I lost the ability to function. When the depression and anxiety were so bad that I couldn’t face the day and spent 3 weeks in bed.

Who am I? At 59 I still grapple with that. My 3 boys are grown. Successful and doing well on their own. I think as we evolve, we constantly ask that ourselves that question.

Sorry to be so philosophical and not offer and good advice.

Chuck

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to Chasbearcat999]

Chuck, THANK YOU for your reply. For some reason this hit a nerve (in a good way) and I feel better. I cannot explain, but if you give me some time I will be able to