over thinking

[Zainab98]

hi every one

I am an over thinker I am very sad and depressed i feel like i am loser , don't know what should i do, also i don't have friends so i feel alone

[012703060610]

Sadly I think you are in good company here. First and foremost, you are not a loser, you are battling a medical condition that is real. I know mental health has gotten a bad rap over the years but I think so many more people are stepping up about these issues. I am also struggling with both anxiety and depression. I can say the anxiety has always been there. I remember anxiety since running races since age 5! Depression crept in with a medical diagnosis that isn't so great. I spend most days trying to get to doctors and alone. I have three little kids but split custody with my ex. This adds onto the depression even more. I too often find myself just sitting and not really feeling a part of anything. Even with my poor medical prognosis, friends do leave and even family. I have a hard time wrapping around losing so many people just because I'm sick. I'm glad you posted. You certainly aren't alone! I just know if the roles were reversed with some people, I would be there in a heart beat!

[Zainab98 in reply to 012703060610]

very sad to hear that, thank you fot your support 🙏

[Montana136]

Zainab98 hi there. I suffer depression and anxiety for 40 years or more. Some episodes are more severe than other but I'm struggling as well. Thank you for your post it's good that you're here with us. On this platform.

I know feeling like a loser can be very intense but you're not a loser you're a person struggling with a disorder that's beyond your control, right? That doesn't mean you're a loser. Self-criticism is very dangerous, give yourself some credit for whatever you succeed in. Even if it's having posted here. You're reaching out you're trying to help yourself. That is not a loser move.

I tend to isolate not talk to people and it makes me feel very lonely. So when I go to the grocery store I try to engage and have a short conversation with the cashier. The more often you can find reasons to leave the house the better off you will be. Engage. Take action. Do a little more each day than you did the day before towards recovering. Help somebody else. Helping others is a good way to help yourself so being on this platform and answering posts like yours is how I perform service to others. I have made so much progress taking baby steps in the last 6 months I feel way better. I think negatively about myself everyday all day all the time and I'm learning ways to interrupt those thoughts or beliefs. I read more, I research self-esteem depression and anxiety topics all the time to find things I can do to help myself feel better. I take medication you can talk to your general doctor or psychiatrist if you have one. Medication helps me but doesn't solve the problem completely. I use deep controlled breathing for anxiety, journaling, writing letters I never send to people, so that I can vent without offending that person. Then I burn those letters so they don't get found. You're not a loser you're just in a rut. Take action do something to make yourself feel better you won't regret it.

Be well, Montana

[Zainab98 in reply to Montana136]

thanks for your support, yes it is very hard i want to help my self but i can’t , i feel like i am drowned ,sorry maybe i write something wrong because my english not very well

[Marysblue]

I feel the same way a lot of days. Can you watch what you say to yourself? If you have to write it down and then write back to it dispute it. Depression tells you so many lies. You have friends here now. You're fighting a illness , be kind to yourself if you can. I know how hard it is, depression tells you just the opposite. Do something nice for yourself. Get you a nice meal watch your favorite movie, there are a lot of good videos on YouTube . like Tara Brach about self compassion. There are meditations you can do with self compassion. Look on insight timer.

[Zainab98 in reply to Marysblue]

first thank you for your support, yes i try to do that but its like sound inside me its very hard 💔

[Marysblue]

I know..same here.