upset

[Daisy425]

as you may know, last week I went in a girls trip to nashville and really struggled. Today I was thinking about how everything I was worried about didn’t happen, and I met my anxiety affect my trip. This seems to happen after a bout of bad anxiety. I look back and say that next time will be different. I’m just kind of upset that I let my anxiety take over so much on my trip. I really want to be able to travel. When I was in college I traveled all the time and was able to overcome my anxiety and not let it impact my trips. I want to be that way again. I don’t want to do this support group that meets starting in July three times a week for multiple hours, but I want to gain back control. I want to be able to travel. Dont know if this is making any sense but I needed to vent as I was feeling quite upset

[Territorial]

I know how you feel and i am from country Australia and every time i have to visit the big city for health issues i worry weeks before if i have an appointment..Its usually 5 hours by road plus and i often have to go alone..I dont sleep the night before i leave or the next night before my treatment or appointment..Being in the city over awes me as i get extremely anxious i do not go on holidays any more..But the best thing i found and was to keep looking forward enjoy the moment and try to concentrate on what is good big hugs and all the best..

[Daisy425 in reply to Territorial]

thank you!!

[Shnookie]

Can U please tell me why U don’t want to do the support group ? The more support U receive the easier it will be 4 U to travel and do other things U enjoy.

[Daisy425 in reply to Shnookie]

I just feel like needing this higher level of care means I’m losing control of myself

[Shnookie in reply to Daisy425]

There is another way to view this. U R very gutsy to reach out for this higher level of care. U R doing self care and this is always a good thing. By doing this, U will be able to have greater control of yourself.

[Daisy425 in reply to Shnookie]

thank you. You are absolutely right ! I’m just a little nervous about starting it. I know it will be uncomfortable at first

[AnxiousSilver in reply to Daisy425]

"I just feel like needing this higher level of care means I’m losing control of myself"

I get it, I felt the same way when I first needed help. (right around your age too)

Psych? Me? Really? and Why?

.

"I’m losing control of myself"

When of the first things that I learned was my need to be in control.

To be fair, I still struggle with that one, but it was one of the first things that I learned.

[AnxiousSilver]

"Dont know if this is making any sense"

Virtually everything that you have written up to this point makes complete sense. (especially since I experienced most of it first hand myself)

[Daisy425 in reply to AnxiousSilver]

we are so similar it’s crazy!

[Agora1]

Hi Daisy, everything you worried about didn't happen. Of course easier to look

back at the situation once it's over. Those fears are called the "what if's" which

can control us just as much as full blown anxiety. It's good to go back and realize

how much anxiety can control our lives and what we can do about it.

I remember the days of popping a benzo because my fears were so bad. After

15-20 minutes, it would make me realize, it was Anxiety playing it's mind game

with me. If it were something more serious as I had anticipated, one little pill

wouldn't have done it. And so once again, we are fooled by the tricks our mind

plays.

When is enough enough? When do we get to live our lives as we want to? You've

got the answer my friend. We learn from these experiences..Next time can be

different if you give yourself permission to. xx