lonely or not Lonely?

Why is it so hard for some people including therapists to believe I’m not lonely and feel happier and safer being at home. Yes I would like to be in a relationship at my age after being single for so long and yes it would be nice to form friendships with people that won’t end up taking advantage of me. All my life since childhood I have been used and abused. It took me a long time to like my own company… so why does that mean I’m lonely. Can anyone relate?

[downinthecrud]

I relate. I’ve been alone a lot during my life. I’ve also been married and in long term relationships. Right now, however, I’m lonely. Isolation is like an auto immune disease. The body attacking itself.

[Starrlight]

I enjoy being home alone, which rarely ever happens but I can relate to the comfort of one’s own company.

[Hidden in reply to Starrlight]

I can relate, my eldest has his own family, my youngest still lives at home, but when she’s not at home, either at college or out with her “ friends “don’t feel lonely.

[Marysblue]

Lived alone most of my life. No kids. I get around people a few times a week and get disappointed often that theyre not that interesting or interested in whats going on in my life.I'm sure my depression and all the hurts, rejection I've suffered has played into that but the result is I isolate and prefer being alone alot.

[Hidden in reply to Marysblue]

Although I have to children, with a creature who groomed me from the age of 15… I can relate to your post. I only go out a few times a week, usually for medical or shopping… but the sooner I get home the better.