Lonely

[sunsetsandsleeping]

I’ve been feeling so lonely lately. No matter where I am, what I’m doing or how many people I may be surrounded by I feel so alone. It feels like I can’t connect, can’t communicate, can’t feel the love or support I’m needing from anyone.

[Bella2408]

You are not alone in the feeling. May be the people have become more mechanical that they don't understand or give a thought about how people around them feeling. I'm in your shoes.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Bella2408]

Welcome to the group

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[Hidden in reply to Bella2408]

Welcome to this community. I know EXACTLY how you feel. It's awful that people are so quick to judge.

[LilyAnnepuppy]

Welcome to the community. You’ll find a lot of support here from people who can relate to you. I know the feeling of being “alone” in a roomful of people. The feeling of being disconnected.

Usually the answer is that I need to connect to myself. Self awareness and self care are necessary principles to practice. Along with then reaching out to others to see how I can be of service to them. Both mindsets are hard. But with my psychiatrist, therapist, meds, support group, prayer and meditation, I can achieve a bit of peace and serenity.

We’re glad you’re here. Keep coming back.

[Dolphin14]

Welcome to the group.

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[Hidden]

Welcome!

[Boston001]

I often feel the way you are expressing. Nearly 8 billion people on this planet how is it that I find it so hard to connect. This is one of the reasons I keep coming back to this website. You my feel lonely, but you are not alone.

[Weatherwoman in reply to Boston001]

I have said that, "There are 8 Billion people on this planet, how is it that I find it so hard to connect!" Or, to feel So Alone! I have said that to myself So many times especially now since my Sig. Other passed away last Nov. For me, I think part of the reason I find it hard to connect is that I am Too much in my own head, and really need to See & pay more attention to the other --to others. How one makes the other feel is a "key" to connection, I feel. Suffering from anxiety, OCD, etc. & loss makes it more difficult for me to connect. So, I am working on myself which is Isn't Easy!

[Boston001 in reply to Weatherwoman]

What you just wrote there "How one makes the other feel is a "key" to connection" Welp, that song doesn't play as loud for me anymore. It's like I am not in the same species anymore. A cardinal in a flock of blue jays, even people from my own demographics. Nothing makes me feel more like an outsider than when they start talking about millionaires running around on fake grass, violently attacking each other for control over an inflated, or under-inflated lol scrap of leather. That's when I tell them I am most pleased with the performance of my i9-12900KS, hahaha 😜. Making people feel happy about themselves by hanging out with me, has always been difficult, and even more so now that I am older and have lost some of my superficial attributes. I can relate to being "Too much in my own head" it is for me, like the lottery, the chances of finding someone we feel comfortable with are a lot lower than a negative experience with the wrong person. ( from a guys perspective ) I tend to not make eye contact when I am out in public, yes most women smile and say hello back, but 1 in 10 will "Cringe". And starting a conversation is even more dangerous. If she is into a guy it's flirting but if she is not the guy is a predatorial pervert. Ooops I think I overshared again lol

[Weatherwoman in reply to Boston001]

No, no you didn't overshare! Ok, to express your feelings --I understand. I hear that a lot of women today are just too "touchy" (being a Woman, I can say that), and that makes it difficult, I do suppose, for a guy to approach a woman. It used to be much easier than it is now for people to get together. The times have changed & not for the best & there are A lot of people suffering from being lonely. I was lucky to find my "soul mate," Mike, & felt utterly comfortable with him. I could be Myself, totally with him. But, Mike has passed away, & now I feel SO alone & find it hard to connect as I've stated. Seems like you, actually, have a good "batting average," if only 1 in 10 "Cringe!" Take the changce, and start a conversation -- it's worth the try as who knows, you might just "win!" Easier said than done!

[Weatherwoman in reply to Weatherwoman]

chance

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It’s crazy how sometimes I feel so much more connected on here than trying to connect to people in my real life. With the pandemic I think it’s caused a lot of us to be more withdrawn and antisocial.

[reinventingmyself36]

I feel same way. I’m sorry you’re going thru this. It’s extremely painful. Have you tried calling hotlines like nyc well or 988? They help.. may I ask how old are you? I also don’t know what to do with feeling lonely on top of mental issues.