How to emotionally detach?

I'm really tired of thr emotional abuse, psychological manipulation and the confusion/gas lighting that endures in my mind, against myself. I just really can't do that know more. How would one emotionally and psychologically detach from people who are supposed to be the closest ones to you have actually been the ones who have helped you screw yourself over, pardon my french. I wonder if I can have a relationship with them while being able to live a private life outside of this nonsense.

[Dolphin14]

Emotional detachment does take time. It's not easy to break away from people

The first step is to set boundaries. If you ask for respect you should be treated with respect. If someone can't do this for you then you have to make choices.

Some people can maintain a distant relationship and feel ok about that and others cannot.

I was in the " cannot " group. I had to break away

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[Focusedmind]

I also realized in my mid-twenties that I wasn't treated with respect by some of my relatives, so for me, I also had to break away. I grew up in Indiana and moved to Oregon after college, where I could start a new life. I have never looked back. And over the years, I have become closer to those relatives, but the distance helped make that possible.

[jackiesj]

Boundries but if that doesnt work...walk away when you see a flag...ive hung the phone up. You need to decide what may divert. Mental emotional abuse starts small and adds up. Some people you can drop others may take time. i saw a podcast that said..being silent really took power out of a controling person.Its not mean its protection...i didnt see the red flags for a while.They are there...