I'm just wondering if you can relate or if you find truth in this?

[Shanm2]

Because no one is wiser than an elder or even more...an older version of you.

[Starrlight]

A difficulty and at the same time beautiful truth.❤️

[Shanm2 in reply to Starrlight]

I feel, its also the same for having that awareness, happy but sad. Hope you are doing okay Starrlight ❤

[Starrlight in reply to Shanm2]

❤️ I’m actually not feeling well right now but thank you for asking… I need to give myself a break for today. How are you?

[Shanm2 in reply to Starrlight]

Oh no! Nothing too serious i hope. Maybe taking a break with rest might possibly be neededI am judt surviving the best i can thank you for replying.

And hope you feel better soon ❤

[Starrlight in reply to Shanm2]

Thanks Shanm! I finally am getting a break in. I will try to relax my mind as well as my body which seems so hard at the moment. Blessings to you ❤️

[Hidden]

Completely agree. Healing involves acceptance which always includes things from our past. A very difficult process for me absolutely. 👍💛

[Shanm2 in reply to Hidden]

I agree with you on acceptance of our path and healing from it! And that it can be difficult, and also brings up difficult emotions too, I'm glad your going through the process of healing and sometimes its the difficult parts that impact us for the better down the line

Stay strong Hidden!

[fauxartist]

What a profound commentary.... yes... we do grieve for what we have lost or will never have sometimes. I know I grieve not having the relationship I should have had with my mother. I grieve not getting a degree in ceramic art and being able to teach. I grieve losing everything to illness. I grieve what mental illness and mental injury have done to my personal growth and health.

But what I have in life now, for the most part, I have what I need. But what I never had was love....and now I have that in my life...which is priceless.

[Shanm2 in reply to fauxartist]

I'm happy for you that down the long line, you found love and despite the goals you didnt achieve, you seem to be content with the life you live now (for the most part) and in the end, being loved and giving love makes the world a different place Thank you for your reply.

[fauxartist in reply to Shanm2]

I truly wish the same for you, as for all of us who have suffered... and I was just thinking about how those of us who suffered at the hand of another, or the words of another, really are the only ones who continue to be hurt, because the perpetrators don't even give what they have done a second thought. We are left as the walking wounded with scars no one else can see, but we feel them every day.

[Shanm2 in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you. You have no idea how much i related to what you've written in the second reply. I agree that the ones that suffered at the hands of another, can leave wounds and scars that cannot be seen with the eye, and we carry the heavy burden, whilst the ones who inflicted it are none the wiser.

I refuse to be or do what those people have or become who they are. I don't know if it makes you stronger, but it does paint a clear picture of whats right and whats wrong and teaches you who people are and when to stay well a way from certain types.

[fauxartist in reply to Shanm2]

Absolutely agree.....we don't have to let it define us. The thing that was even harder for me to accept at first was the fact that these heartless acts done to so many of us, were done by people who not only never gave it a second thought, but that they are incapable in many cases of even caring, and therefore see no reason to apologize or atone for something they feel no guilt for.

I read an interesting quote today from one of these kinds of people....

'How can what I say be called a lie if I believe what I'm am saying'

[Shanm2 in reply to fauxartist]

The quote speaks for itself. Some people won't really ever care what they do to others, as long as it doesn't interfere or create to much of an issue with themselves or their own lives.

And you know what? I feel a sense of sympathy towards them, because 'hurt people, hurt people' and to be cruel and heartless is to be cold and empty. That to me is the saddest part.

And as hard as it is/was for you to accept, it taught us lessons that will help us understand people but also how we can protect ourselves in the future

[fauxartist in reply to Shanm2]

I agree....bullies don't just be....they became... they were created. Yes there are some people without conscience, narcs, sociopaths, psychopaths.... but most of us do have a sense of right and wrong. And we learn not only from our own mistakes...but from the wrong done to us. Some do become abusers...and some have learned what abuse does to the psyche, and become healers, and scholars, and philosophers.

Yes...my character has been molded by the bad as well as the good...but a balance in life on a fulcrum of right and what is wrong...walking that fine line of genius and insanity, and knowing that we make choices today... and hopefully learn from them. We cannot change the past, we don't let it define us, but yes... it's given me resolve.

[Elizabeth830]

Unfortunately, so true! I’m going through this right now. Wish I could hit the fast forward button and make it all be behind me.

[Shanm2 in reply to Elizabeth830]

Something similar has been come to my mind also. But after going through something thats currently emotionally difficult for me, and sitting with it, and crying with it has been an immense relief after years of never sitting but running from emotions. As hard as it can be to go through these times, one day, - 6 months to 6 years- from now, you'll look back on and it might be behind you or more so not so heavy on you and when this happens, remember that you made it through.

Stay strong Elizabeth830

❤ You will make it through

[Hidden]

I hv nvr really thought of 'regret' & other negative feelings I'm going thru as healthy grieving. I'm having a hard time accepting things right now, and seeing this healing process from a diff (& good) perspective is helpful moving forward. Thanks for your post.

[Shanm2 in reply to Hidden]

I relate alot with having a hard time accepting things, and i'm sorry your experiencing what your experiencing right now. But better days are ahead, thats whats grieving and healing helps towards (in my experience)

Wishing you all the best Hidden and again,

Stay strong ❤