I've been crying and i'm glad....Can anyone relate?

[Shanm2]

Because after years of not being able to cry for more then 5 minutes or only with a few tears, i'm crying an awful lot lately. Especially on sad days ( or at night) and its full on sobs for half an hour to hours at a time.

And isn't it strange?

Despite the sadness i feel, i cry and the relief from doing so is helping me.

Is this what part of healing looks like? Or am i really just heading to an not-so-okay place?

[Agora1]

Hi Shanm2, for me it was a part of my deep emotional healing process.

My crying jags lasted 5 years. I couldn't speak w/o crying. But I will say it

was an emotional release of stress hormones. Eventually as my life settled

down, my crying stopped. I was never depressed just very emotional. xx

[Shanm2 in reply to Agora1]

Hey Agora1, I'm sorry for you having gone through this, but i'm glad that as your life settled, as did your emotions.

Sometimes i thought being emotional, meant that there was something wrong with me. I grew up unfortunately in a household where emotions and crying had to stay hidden. To say that i have alot to heal from would be an understatement. But i find comfort in saying it was your deep healing process

As you always, thank you for your reply ❤️

[copingwithcomedy]

its good to release through crying, I haven't been able to stop crying the last hour

[Shanm2 in reply to copingwithcomedy]

Hey copingwithcomedy, I agree with you that its good to release through crying and i have found myself telling myself that "i'm one more cry away from feeling better"

I'm sorry that you had been crying for an hour during that time, i hope you are okay? And i hoped you felt better afterwards

[Starrlight]

I know what you mean. I haven’t been able to cry for a long stretch except for one time shortly after my mom died. It IS such a relief to be able to cry and I believe it’s very healing. Embrace the emotions. Sit with what comes up.

[Shanm2 in reply to Starrlight]

Hey Starrlight! I'm sorry for what you've went through.

Thank you for the words of "Embrace the emotions, sit with what comes up" I found this very comforting ❤️

[Starrlight in reply to Shanm2]

I’m glad my words comforted you. How are you doing today? ❤️

[Shanm2 in reply to Starrlight]

They did 😊 I feel better in reading some of these responses, less alone. I know that these feelings of sadness wont last forever and so for today i find comfort in that also ❤️

[Starrlight in reply to Shanm2]

Great problem solving Shanm!

[Pastor_of_Muppets]

I have complicated feelings about that. I knew I was depressed when I cried every day for months. I hadn't prior to that for probably 5 years. Now that I'm on 3 meds I still frequently feel anguish, but I cannot express it. Crying is nearly impossible. I don't feel complete anymore. I don't know which I prefer, to be honest. It was embarassing in public, but cathartic in private.

[Shanm2 in reply to Pastor_of_Muppets]

I'm sorry for what you're going through and how you are feeling right now. I feel that containing emotions in public or even more in front of people was a coping mechanism of mine, but in private is another thing entirely, as if being seen to cry was an absolute 'no-no' so i can relate so much with "embarrassing to cry in public and cathartic in private"

Again, i can relate with what you've written here, i do wonder if after your experience with crying for months due to depression has maybe contributed to the block of feeling like you can't cry now?

Thank you for your honesty in your reply, and for expressing your experience with me, it has helped some.

Take care of yourself and stay strong

[Leadingwithlove]

I feel the same way, it’s a release of all the emotions built up.

When I can’t cry it’s harder because I don’t feel like I release that stress within me, and it turn into anxiety for me.

[Shanm2 in reply to Leadingwithlove]

I'm sorry you feel like this too, and that when you can't cry that it can turn into anxiety. I'm a very anxious person myself and i fear that my tears will run out, and so sometimes listening to a music or a song can sometimes prompt me to cry. I don't know if this is healthy or not.

I hope you are doing okay, take it easy and Stay strong ❤️

[catsrock]

I like that your crying is a very positive thing and sounds like it is healing. I have big cries like that sometimes and it's a good release.

[Shanm2 in reply to catsrock]

Sometimes it feels both positive and negative. But often times, i feel that its good to let some sadness out rather then keeping it in. Im glad you find an good release in crying too!

Thank you for your response also

[RemySue]

Crying makes me feel so much better!

[Shanm2 in reply to RemySue]

Hey RemySue! I'm glad crying makes you feel better too!Hope you are well

[dwhp]

I realize that when i'm triggered, i stop breathing so my body forces me to cry so i can breathe. although i'm not successful in naming my emotions yet but at least i get relieve and release from the pent up trauma trapped in my body. i'm even taking mental health days from work so i can have a good cry without being interrupted. once i'm done crying, i can move on and pinpoint my hurt.

thanks for sharing and making me feel human. have a great week!😘

[Shanm2 in reply to dwhp]

Give yourself a little praise for recognising when being triggered and taking mental health days from work to give yourself that space and time to cry. But also trying to pinpoint your hurt or cause for sadness/distress, and in doing so will help you understand yourself and your emotions and with time naming emotions will become easier through understanding/knowing yourself better.

Thank you for your reply, and i'm glad i made you feel more human and hopefully less alone. This made me happy and also made my day!

Sending you best wishes ❤️ Stay strong ❤️

[Hidden]

My adult daughter just revealed to me that her therapist told her that crying is a coping skill for her. Maybe you're just trying to cope? 🫂 ~hug~

[Shanm2 in reply to Hidden]

I'm glad your daughter is having therapy, it really can do wonders. And the words her therapist gave is helpful. I hadn't considered this myself. But perhaps crying is my way of coping right now with events that have occurred lately.

I will say that having read what you wrote really did bring me great comfort and i really thank you for that ❤️

[Hidden in reply to Shanm2]

And thank you, that makes me feel good 😊🙏🫂

[Weatherwoman]

I can't stop crying since my Sig. Other passed away six months ago, I thought that my Effexor stopped me from crying; but, I am glad it (the med). didn't. I cry everyday & it is helpful -- However, the sadness is there nearly All the time. I cry, also, as I have to move to another state. I try not to cry in public; but, do at times & no one even notices --everyone in their own heads. I used to cry even before my Sig. Other, and my Mom, and others passed -- So, I am a "crier," but there have been times when it was hard for me to cry. Hard to explain!

[Shanm2 in reply to Weatherwoman]

Hello Weatherwoman, I just want to say, that i am so, so sorry for your loss and what your going through and i cannot begin to imagine what that must be like.

I'm glad that you do feel that crying is helpful for you and that the meds didn't stop you from doing so.

I wish i had some better words to say, or comfroting even, but i do want to say thank you for sharing this with me and your response.

I feel sadness for you and there is nothing wrong with being a "crier" to be able to let some of it out is far better then keeping it in and becoming a "robot" or numb. You're only human and crying is a natural human thing to do

Stay strong, weatherwoman and Thank you ❤️

[Weatherwoman in reply to Shanm2]

Thank you for your dear, and caring response to my losses. Yes, it's Very difficult. Post like yours do help me, also. I appreciate all you wrote.

[Shanm2 in reply to Weatherwoman]

I'm happy to know that i helped in some way Take care ❤️

[Weatherwoman]

Thank you!