New...just looking for others that can relate

[Artchick123]

New here..I feel like I do pretty good most days but lately I dont know...I feel more anxious and irritated...just stressing alot lately...I know I'm not alone.we all do this

[Lonewolf0407]

You are definitely not alone in this. Are you currently staying at home due to Covid? I know sometimes being home all day everyday drives me crazy! Try breathing exercises. Take a deep breath through your nose and let it out slowly through your mouth

[Artchick123 in reply to Lonewolf0407]

I'm a teacher so I've been home for months. My boyfriend has been on unemployment since this started so we have been together 24/7...I'm not sure if he is stressing me out more than normal or I'm just really anxious and agitated. I also lost only son to an accident 3.5 years ago so that works on me harder on some days.

[Lonewolf0407 in reply to Artchick123]

I see, it does sound like something that can make things harder than usual. Have you tried talking to your boyfriend about the things that have been irritating you? Maybe there’s something he can help with.

[Artchick123 in reply to Lonewolf0407]

Its probably just me and probably because we have been together too much lately. I feel like I can never do anything right...I feel like hes always criticizing me. Maybe I just need my meds adjusted....I get my feelings hurt way to easy lately...thanks for chatting

[Lonewolf0407 in reply to Artchick123]

No problem, but have you tried talking to him about how you feel? He can probably clear things up for you and make you feel better 😊 sometimes I get too into my head too until I talk to my husband or like a doctor about certain things and it really helps

[Artchick123 in reply to Lonewolf0407]

Anytime I try to he acts like I'm being ridiculous...he was on me about not cooking tonight and I was trying to ask him what he wanted me to fix and he said I should have already planned something for dinner and I said I didn't have anything laid out..he said that figures..u never do..and I really do cook all the time...I asked him why he is always criticizing and he said i was being silly. I know this sounds trivial but hes kinda been like this about everything lately..I'm not fast enough, i cant read his mind based and etc...I'm probably just over reacting and sensitive...sorry to be whinny

[Lonewolf0407 in reply to Artchick123]

No, you are not overreacting or whinny. What he says to you is hurtful and it can be very very hurtful especially if you hear this kind of stuff everyday. I’m so sorry you’re going through that. It doesn’t sound healthy. He seems very demanding which can be hard to please. Just remember that if you don’t want to cook or clean or do anything that is perfectly fine. It’s ok to not do anything every now and then. He’s a grown man that can take care of himself every now and then. Remember that. Try setting boundaries. When he starts telling you things like this just remember that it’s ok to not please him every single day. You need you time.

[Artchick123 in reply to Lonewolf0407]

Thank you for listening...I do cater to him so much he always expects it...hes a grown man...I know he loves me and I love him but it seems alot harder recently

[Lonewolf0407 in reply to Artchick123]

Yea, I understand. My husband was catered too for a while until I put my foot down and told him I’m not his maid. That he needs to help me out. There was a time when I didn’t do his laundry for a whole month. Now he does help me out on certain things when I ask him too. Once I got him to do everything I did he started understanding me more.

[Artchick123 in reply to Lonewolf0407]

That's good

[Lonewolf0407 in reply to Artchick123]

I hope you guys can have a nice conversation and sort everything out! I’m hoping nothing but the best for you 💕

[Artchick123 in reply to Lonewolf0407]

Thank you so much

[SongAndSoul]

Hi. Welcome. 😊

[Artchick123 in reply to SongAndSoul]

Hi thanks

[jordan73]

I understand how you fell maybe we could talk sometime and share our problems with each other.

[Artchick123 in reply to jordan73]

Thank you

[Orangeblossom85]

Just came in to drop a similar post. I could not sleep any longer today, been stressing out for weeks and it seems to be harder and harder everyday. Would like to breathe through all of those difficulties but somehow... it just keep me breathless. I feel so lonely even though I know that absolutely every one of us do experience sadness, pain, stress, loneliness and loss. I wish I would be more resilient and not let it affect me so much. I came here for help as I always do, ever since I joined health unlocked my life got so much better! I’m grateful each minute, full of positive energy but still - stressed and tense no matter what.

[Artchick123 in reply to Orangeblossom85]

I'm glad it has helped...good to have others that can relate