Anxiety

[Trainchaser]

Does anyone feel like you concentrate on one thing have anxiety about then the situation plays out and your on to something else. I hate this feeling as it tells me I will never get over my anxiety. Then if the anxiety is about a family member it makes it even worse.

[Starrlight]

I can relate to all of that anxiety…but I am getting better as time goes on at giving less importance to the fears and lies anxiety tells. It still can be incredibly hard but I now have somewhat easy days too and I’m not exactly sure what that depends on. Maybe a build up of little things done either positive or negative or maybe that’s just the way the anxious body/mind works.

[LifeIsThePitts]

Our 🧠 is not biologically wired to be a problem solver, they are maniacal problem 🏭 FACTORIES! They will churn out more fears and problems for you than you can handle if you don't have the tools to reign yourself in. It's not your fault...you just need to teach yourself New healthy ways to cope instead of operating from a place of fear and despair... coming at it from a vision of educated compassion and understanding, you will find it's not as hard as it seems right now. Anxiety is the ramped up version of an out of control brain. You've got to address the problem at its root... everyone here has different roots to dig up and face.

You're exactly right that it's not the item you're fixated on that's the issue, because as soon as it's resolved, that unhealthy fixation finds a New target 🎯 and the same cycle continues on.

The dog chasing it's tail, the snake 🐍 eating itself....it didn't end for me until I refocused my intentions from the "problem" to the "solution". I'm JUST learning this revelation now and I'll be 50 next year. I've been chasing my own tail since I was a teenager. It's exhausting and fruitless& I've wasted decades of my life on NOTHING but manufactured "problems" that never materialized. I'm going to be free from my self imposed shackles before the BIG FIVE -OH if it kills me 🤭🤣

Dennis Simsek the anxiety guy on YouTube has been my #1 anxiety teacher. His channel is full of everything anxiety. His Inner Child work was what hooked me. THAT was a big part of my root system I had to dig up. Still working hard after 15+ months. That's how long it's been for me so far in this big mental transition.

I know how you feel... this was how I found peace with my anxiety. Maybe it will help you forge ahead in your own process and journey. Much Love...namaste 🙏🍄

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How we all handle anxiety can be different. I tend to fight or flight. When physically healthy, I had a lot of anxiety about my kids, my job, my social circle. So when an anxious situation would arise...like a block party in the hood that was a social co dependent mess....I would go and plow through it. Total mask on the whole time. I was drinking then too and the filter went to zero. So I would fight the anxiety and make it through. After losing my physical health, my anxiety flipped. I was and still unable to face something that makes me anxious. I often miss commitments or obligations as my mind won't free me. You mention family and it's what caught my eye. It took years to realize my childhood, family life and early adult years were far from perfect. My parents moved near my sister who had kids right out of school. Great for them, but they were retired. Once I had kids, we would always have to travel to see them because my "sister" wasn't well. She is an addict and my parents support it mostly because she is very religious like my parents. So she can do anything without repercussions. I get a divorce and I was shamed. I am religious in the way I choose. I don't even tell my parents I zoom into a church that had supported me before I moved across the country. I shouldn't have to justify anything to my parents at this age. I feel awful as my Mom is in end stage parkinsons. But I have a life to live too. I cut my addict sister out and do not speak to her. For more than 20 years she Dr shops, steals meds and sleeps from the moment she gets home until the next day. Yet all of my parents love goes to them. My Dad cooks all of their meals for the week! I have another sister who is treated similar to me, but worse. She drinks wine a few nights a week....she's a freaking doctor. My parents consider her an alcoholic. She enjoys wine when she can and she really can only do that not on call or working. Yet she is an alcoholic and I am a divorced sinner. My PTSD counselor finally got me to calm my family drama train wreck in my mind. YES, family can take anxiety to a whole new level. Thanks for posting.....I am sorry for how you feel and what you are going through. I don't think I will be free of anxiety ever. I just hope to find the right strategies to reduce.

[Supernatural888]

Yes and it just keeps going like a rollercoaster and I can't stop it untill my mind just takes over

[Trainchaser in reply to Supernatural888]

That's a good way of putting it. Like a roller coaster. My mind ain't working very well today. No motivation to do any thing but rest and listen to jazz

[Starrlight]

you know now that I think about it, I will worry about something to do with health, then go onto something to do with school… or about everyone dying… almost always looking for something else to worry about after I’m finished obsessing about one thing

[Trainchaser in reply to Starrlight]

Feeling like this sucks. I have felt this way for years. I am approaching 64 and wondering if I will go to my grave worrying about something. Today my worrying has pertty much shut me down. No motivation at all. I am off work today and had so many things to do. Barely got to a couple of them

[Starrlight in reply to Trainchaser]

I’m so sorry you are not happy will the day and off course with the annoying anxiety, I feel for you. I am there too. I just talked to my psychiatrist though and he just increased my Paxil from 40 to 60 mg. Are you on meds?

[Montana136]

Hi train chaser yes I relate to your problem. I worry I suffer anxiety over situation because I am planning on it going wrong. And when it occurs it was never as bad as I played it out to be. I do this over and over. I complete one project and I start having anxiety over the next project. It has been shared with me to do deep controlled breathing exercises inhale for the counter for exhale to the count of four times. Do this in the morning and do it at night. It is an exercise you need to continue to do. It has actually helped me at times. The anxiety still looms over me but it is getting a little bit better. Take care of yourself and keep posting. You will find compassion people who relate to you and people you can relate to. It's a good thing take care and be well