I need advice if I am being selfish here

[Starla7811]

My family has a lot of monetary issues right now and we have unfortunately defaulted on payment once qnd the loan people have visit our home. I myself am taking finance education and there am trying my best to help this out legally. And I have bad anxiety as told by 2 psycologists. I sometimes due to my fear talk in a tone or have a body language of fear. My family members tell that I am being selfish as we are all in the same problem and I am being the reason for their stress. I am trying my best to regulate my emotions. Am I being selfish here?

[Starla7811]

Yes and trying to find ways to negotiate with loan people. While informing those things sometimes due to stress my body language shows my fear and I am being told repeatedly and I am causing them more stress but they still want my suggestions. I am not good at emotional regulation

[Starla7811]

Thank you for replying me and thank you for the advice I will try it and see if there is any change in their behavior

[Starla7811]

Hello1. I am unfortunately not qn American citizen so I won't be able to answer it.

2. Yes I have tried dedication qnd it has helped me

[Starla7811]

3. Numbness and a void like feeling in stomach with a racing heart qnd thoughts. Nothing I mean nothing makes you feel better

[Starla7811]

4.I do have specific triggers but even without them I feel anxiety sometimes. A basic level. Triggers only increase them.

[Starla7811]

5. Yes so far I have found them to be supportive

[Starla7811]

I think america has its own issues as but as an outsider, I feel america has better mental health care system and a lot of accessible resources.

[Starla7811]

Welcome. Have a good day 😊

[Woodhouse16]

You are not beiñg selfish at all. Can your family not seek help from citizens advice who can give them free and knowledgeable help on the matter instead of putting you through the anxiety and trauma. Its most unfair on you.

[Teaching]

You are not being selfish. They really don't understand how it feels to be anxious. Do what you can to help out but don't overstress yourself.

[catsrock]

You are not being selfish. You are doing your best to manage the situation. Sending lots of hugs.