A Nice Hug

[Sloth23]

I’m not really an affectionate person. But when I’m filling down all I want is a hug. And it’s really hard to get my husband to understand that’s what I need when my anxiety/depression is at an all time high. He also comes from a not so affectionate family. He will give me a hug but doesn’t understand how it supports me. I try to explain it to him but he doesn’t get it. Sometimes I don’t like asking him for a hug because I feel like I am annoying him. We’ve been together 15 years! 5 years ago my mom passed and that sparked up my anxiety/depression again. So he’s adapting to a whole new side of me. In the last few years I’ve been an emotional rollercoaster. I have not always been easy to deal with. Lately I feel like I’m putting the weight of my anxiety/depression onto him. And I don’t won’t him to be engulfed by my emotions. So I’m trying to find other coping mechanisms. I found this support page. So I’m giving it a try. So far it has been helping. Seeing that I am not alone is reassuring that I am not the only one who feels like this. But at the same time. It is extremely lonely.

[Hb2003]

heres a hug for you ❤️🫂

[Agora1]

Sloth23, sending you a gentle hug and a hand to hold,

It's going to be okay. Breathe and know that you are not alone anymore xx

[Diamond99]

hi my name is Desiree I have a lot of anxiety and depression too and it’s so lonely sometimes because very few people understand it I am here for you if you need a friend or just someone to talk to

[Indiegal]

I'm sorry he doesn't understand your needs better. It's really hard to change other's behaviors; we can really only change our own. Is there someone else in your life like a friend or group that may be more affectionate and be able to give you that hug when you need it? Maybe work on developing other relationships that can provide you that support. You might also consider couples counseling to talk through your differences on how to express affection and support each other. Sending virtual hugs to you! 🤗