no way out

[Natz36]

hello

I know this post may not seem relevant or like something others may feel towards this situation, but myself and my daughter are having the worse time with neighbours.

They have never been nice , make lots of noise , damaged our roof , intimaditing , rude .

For the past three years , they have been applying for extensions, two rejected and one they pulled out .

we will find out on the 16th if they get the previous one .

We have had a bad time living round here ( in Manchester) we feel isolated and don’t fit in .

Im autistic and my daughter was mugged 2019

I’ve been crying every day through the stress and fear of all this .

Sensory issues regarding noise I can’t bare it at all .

I feel like there is no way out of this issue it’s so hard .

we also have an indoor cat and we are scared she may get unwell due too the noise and being scared.

There’s lots more that’s been happening but we just don’t know what to do it’s horrible.

I totally believe your environment and where you live matters .

I have never experienced happiness or felt safe and I really can’t cope at all

I’ve reached out too crisis line but they don’t do anything just feels like torture all the time

[roses4all]

I can sooo relate to the noise problem. In my last place... I was in a house with 5 appartments in it.... one guy who lived under me would come home from his waiter's job at 3 am and start playing the drums. And of course, it was directly under my bedroom!!! I had a 9 to 5 job at the time. After months without enough sleep, I was in horrible shape. He refused to stop. I called the police often. The police would come. (He was breaking a noise bylaw.) The police would wake the landlord up and tell him to deal with the noise. It was terrible. I moved. But I moved because I had lots of problems with this landlord and it wasn't going to change. It is very quiet where I live. I am thankful every day. You might try the police for the noise. There are municipal laws for that.

And shame on the crisis line! They are there to 1) listen and 2) offer options. Once I called the crisis line because I was in a new city and needed to know where to go for help. The lady just saying ''poor you''. I told her that I didn't want to hear ''poor you''. I needed options. Anyway, a few days later, I was telling this story to someone and a man overheard and came up to me and apologized for her. HE WAS THE DIRECTOR OF THE HELP LINE! He said they had 2 jobs : listen and offer options. He said he would make sure that all the employees knew that. I found help elsewhere. You might call back. Maybe another person would be more helpful. (If it's another person who answers the phone.)

You also might try an autism association. My son has autism. In his city, there is an autism community. A group of houses (maybe over 100) just for people with autism. It is quiet. And they have a medical centre just for them. So, activities etc. And there is a social worker who deals with problems fast.

Congrats on being proactive. Some people get off on hurting others. For them, it's fun. They have to be forced to stop. Maybe they will be evicted. Congrats on forcing change. Good on you.