I’m done

[Dolphfan47]

I can’t go on like this anymore I am done. I give up I really thought I could do this but today he crossed the line.. he has destroyed me and I don’t know what I am going to do.. my anxiety has been up all day and I don’t know how to even calm that down.. I’ve taken my meds hoping that would work but it didn’t do anything…. All I want to do is scream and punch something or somebody..

[Marysblue]

Sounds like you're in a really bad place. I've actually punched a pillow or the bed or hit the bed with a bat to release anger..it helps. A hot bath will calm me down sometimes. Or music. Deep breaths. There are hotlines you can google , call when you need someone to talk to about problems. Hope you feel better.

[Hidden]

Who crossed what line? Can you get away from this person/situation?

[Dolphfan47 in reply to Hidden]

My husband and no I can’t get away from the situation right now. I am kind of stuck here for at least the next couple of weeks/months until I can find the resources to get the help I need. I just can’t look at him the same he disgusts me.

[Hidden in reply to Dolphfan47]

I’m so sorry. Is he physically hurting you?

[Agora1]

Hi Dolphfan47, unfortunately, medication can't solve our issues only we can.

Once you decide which path you'll take to make a change, your anxiety will go

down because you will have control of your life once more. It's a difficult decision

but one that needs to be made in order to feel Peace in your life. My best to you :)xx

[Hidden]

The good side of realizing you ARE DONE is it can be very freeing emotionally and therefore no more need for anger. That’s what being done is all about. Concentrate on the fact you’re done and focus on your future without him. Invision how much better things will be in your future. Time for a new chapter!

[Elizabeth830 in reply to Hidden]

I love your comments about being freed and there being no more need for anger. I finally felt this way over the weekend. I had been arguing with my husband for over two months about the appropriateness of a relationship he has with another woman. (He thinks it is ok as long as he is not sleeping with her.) I don't have the same thoughts. After another lie Friday, I came to the realization that I need to work on a future without him. I ended up contacting an old friend from high school. I talked with this friend effortlessly for over 3.5 hours Saturday and realized how my husband really hasn't really "heard" me in years. This person did not interrupt me to talk about themselves, they just listened. So refreshing. Now, if I can just keep the momentum going and not worry about my mother being worried about her reputation having a daughter that is going through a divorce.

[Hidden]

This is good news. Reaching out to your old friend was a great idea. It’s amazing how sometimes we just need to talk to someone who actually listens. It helps getting that validation when we are going through changes and unsure if we’re making the right decisions. You’ll be so much happier alone, and/or finding someone down the road who is loyal to you. Keep the forward momentum going. There’s no better feeling than being free! So proud of you and always hear if you need me. 👍❤️

[AXXES2]

what happenend?

[Dolphfan47 in reply to AXXES2]

A lot my husband decided about two years ago that he NEEDED to bring in another woman into our marriage he ended up getting this woman pregnant not once but twice.. I’m his legal wife however he treats her more of a wife than me I am treated more of the nanny.. However when this woman came into he relationship she decided not to give up the guys she was talking/sexting with on a daily basis so my husbands ego and pride was hurt. So this past weekend he decided to have YET another woman in OUR house and they had a threesome with this person because that was his way of getting back at his GF.. so basically I am the one who got hurt because of her actions and neither of them care.. I want to leave however my options are very limited where I live not a lot of resources. That is pretty much what is going on in a nutshell.

[AXXES2 in reply to Dolphfan47]

you need to get out of that house even if it means you gotta stay at a shelter for a bit thats where im staying at at the moment

[Dolphfan47 in reply to AXXES2]

yeah unfortunately I can’t stay at the shelter because we have only one in my area.. it’s a domestic abuse one and because the abuse happened last year and I’m not in immediate danger I don’t qualify.. I already called the shelter..