Just understanding how to reconnect with myself.

[RueLab]

I really don’t know, life and how getting older gives you fear. Things I never thought about before.

[Agora1]

Hi RueLab 53 is no where near old. You say you are healthy but afraid of change.

Change is what you need more than anything right now. Being an empty nester provides

you with the time to do your own thing. Going back to work, volunteering, taking on a

new hobby or project etc. The world is open to you at this time. Not doing anything just

promotes your anxiety to stay active. There are different seasons in our lives. It doesn't

mean it's the end but just the beginning of a new path for you. xx

[RueLab in reply to Agora1]

getting started is what’s hard believe me just enrolling here was hard. But little by little I’m getting there. Seeking reassurance stimulation is what I’m looking for. I’ve always been a go getter nothing can stop me and I lost myself somewhere. I’m now trying to find myself it’s like I gave up.

[Agora1 in reply to RueLab]

Hi RueLab, it happens to the best of us believe me. Once I took that step forward

and noticed how different I felt, I did a little more each day. Having something to

look forward to is important. To get the ball rolling again, we need to give it a little

push, the rest will follow through. My best xx

[Blueruth]

50s are your “I can wear whatever I want and not give a s**t what anyone thinks”. This is when you find new passions or rediscover old ones with a whole new perspective. I am in better shape physically than in my 40s and so are my peers. You may have almost 45 years and you already did puberty thank goodness. You aren’t old. Menopause is something we can actually laugh about in mixed company now. Your career isn’t dead anymore. It might change into something less frenetic if you choose which means more time for yourself. You don’t have to compete for jobs as much. Relish that. Maybe you have some savings. Remember when you had two plates and no dishwasher? (I did anyway.) Having freedom from debt means focusing on things that matter. Take time to appreciate what is different and look at what you want to do. They say “the world is your oyster “ to people in their 20s. Pfft…They are so busy concentrating on their career and family they have no time or money to explore the world. We do.

[Agora1 in reply to Blueruth]

xx