I am finding the holidays more challenging this year. Feel as though I was doing well and regressed.
I have lots of anxiety/depressive (flat) feelings io the morning but have been able to get up and moving. Once I walk or hit the gym I feel better but it has been tough. Been off work for two weeks and lonliness has been an issue. Don't want to be needy with my family.or friends. I would never do anything to harm myself but I am back to withing I wasn't here.
Have tried to volunteer and keep active but still hard.
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Hi I think holidays are the worse especially if alone .iam like you do lots walking love the outdoors. Iam going to try some volunteering. Hope you can push through this .I don't have a big family only one son with 2 grandchildren. It's good to talk to people too .xx
Hi Tigglypoo. I love the outdoors too. Last night was tough again. Will be back to work tomorrow so the structure and statying busy will be a big help. I live in a beautiful aread with lots of trails so the scenery and wildlife really help. Living alone is hard and my family does not want to socialize as much these days. Since my mom passes a few year ago and then the pandemic came a long, the whole social dynamic has changed. I am close with my twin brother and my youngest brother but they are both busy with kids and grandkids. Hard to make new friends these days too. Good to talk with people who are like-minded.
I am having trouble the same issue . I think the expectations of the Holiday leads to a big let down after. I got so caught up in shopping, gifting, cooking etc. that I was doing really good . Then just as quickly they are over and I find myself in a really low spot. My mood had been great before the Holidays and now I am just sad and teary. I feel like the New Year doesn’t bring much hope unless I am fortunate enough to get a new kidney. I stay active and involved but dialysis is really hard. Anyhow I can relate and I hope you are feeling better soon !!
It certainly isn’t the world I grew up in ! Lack of traditional Christmas and the meaning of it. Family coming together is a joke nowadays. The world is in such disarray and everything is so out of control. The prices to live from rent, food, gas etc. It is hard to ignore all the hardship going on around us ! I work at a food pantry and even people who lived comfortable lives in the past are barely able to provide for their families. It is just so sad !
My mom and dad were big on tradition so we had huge holidays. I registered to volunteer at a local food pantry but they actually have more volunteers than they know what fo do with. so I just donate money. Did some other volunteer work too. We had big holidays when both parents were alive, but after Mom passed a few years ago, no one wants to do much as a family. My sisters have a lot of anger toward my mom and they block things out. I just remember all of the warmth and happiness. My mom had mental health issues and dad was alcoholic. He had a lot of anger too. He had served in WWII and 3 tours in Korea with the Marines (behind enemy lines a lot) so I think that took a toll. But they raised 9 of us and they did the best they could. Several of us have mental health issues. I try to encourage them and be an example, but lately I feel I am struggling again. Just trying to will myself through it. I have achieved a lot in spite of this.
It sounds like you are stronger than you give yourself credit for ! Keep doing the wonderful things you are. May you find some happiness soon. Now that the Holidays have past.
Thanks for replying . Always here to chat .just had lovely walk with a friend .I don't drive so iam restricted where I go .I live in Wales we have lovely places to visit .hopefully going back to work provides some routine .iam back next week I work in a school.take care x
Welcome jn. This post hit me hard because I always struggle during Christmas. It's as though the world puts so much pressure on you. Christmas must be special. It's a time for people, friends, family... But then there's those of us who don't have people, or have someone we miss, or have such crippling anxiety the gatherings are unbearable. Not all of us can meet the expectations.
I myself love Christmas. I'm a stubborn fool and always hope that one day it will be perfect. In the mean time I'm lucky enough that I do at least get to spend most of the holiday with my daughter and I concentrate on her. Other than that, I do my best to remember that at the end of the day, it's just a day. And new year is just the date changing. That's all.
I still have nights, such as tonight, when the anxiety drops in for a visit. It far less frequent these days, but still manages to pick the night before going back to work to stop me sleeping...
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