Coping with aloneness after loss.

[secrets22]

Its been 3 long years of living alone, and it doesn't get easier.

Some people say get out and find someone else and I tell them that I still have a partner…we didn’t split up or divorce so we are still married, I wont say its the best situation living alone but i really cant imagine sharing my life with anyone else, certainly it would be nice to have a fun crazy friend to go out with and confide in but to live with someone new i would find that very hard to do, and besides you get in a routine of doing what you want, eating when you like, and going to bed any time you choose. I suppose we get a bit selfish in all honesty.

Separate homes seems to tick the boxes without all the humdrum of laundry and dirty dishes.

Weirdly my little dogs give me all the comfort i need right now and everyone of us will one day be left on our own, harsh but true.

[Hidden]

Unfortunately I am experiencing the loss of my wife of 30 years due to divorce. Been alone for 3+ years and I'm still waiting for "time to heal my wounds".... doesn't seem to be happening

[Weatherwoman in reply to Hidden]

I can relate to your post as I lost my Sig. Other that I took care of for almost three years. He passed away on Nov. 3rd of this year. I am SO alone & lonely as my family is far away (tho. they aren't the "warm & fuzzy" type, anyway). I have friends who don't live real close, and don't seem to want to drive across the bridge where I am. I don't suppose I am being of much help with my post, but you are Not alone in your feelings. Loss, through death, divorce, is Very difficult. Perhaps, I can suggest a Grief support group & counseling for both of us (I have started with a grief counselor), or taking some kind of a class where we may find people to connect to --just some suggestions for you & me.

[Hidden in reply to Weatherwoman]

Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post. Of course you're being helpful and I truly appreciate it. Be well my friend

[Weatherwoman in reply to Hidden]

Yes, I hope the best for both of us.

[secrets22 in reply to Hidden]

its a very difficult time my friend and sadly it doesn't get easier, but we become very good actors by pretending we are managing quite well, when in truth we are hurting. My thoughts reach out to you.

[Nothingnoted]

Do what makes you happy it takes to heal from relationships. Just listen to yourself and how you feel and follow what's in your heart Wishing you the very best and plenty of Happiness to come to you

[Uma_nalla]

I know my neighbour, who is living alone and happy since 11 years.U r no where, when u say 3 years

U said, u hav dogs, take them for a walk whenever u r sad

Go for shopping or temple or church, where u find peace

Make ur home decorations, invite ur friends or neighbours. Be so nice to everyone that they will wait for you and make time to spend with u

Never share ur feelings with anyone, it makes u more depress