Loss

[Lostgirl]

I had to unexpectedly put my cat to sleep. Im taking it hard. My boyfriend who gave me the cat is not being very supportive. its making me look at him differently all i asked for was a hug and for him to spend the night with me. this didnt happen. he had always told me he would be there for me but wasnt when i was calling him he didnt reach out to me into 4 hours later. I kinda want to break up with him and move on. but i dont want to mention anything and start a fight. it just sucks that i have to go thru this alone when i was there when someone he cared about unexpectedly passed away. i just dont know if i should bring it up or not.

[Mary-intussuception]

Hi

I am so sorry about the loss of your Precious cat, suddenly, without warning.

You must be heartbroken.

Would you like to talk about your cat & what happened?

Thinking of you ♥️

[Lostgirl in reply to Mary-intussuception]

She just ate something her body couldnt handle and she was in alot of pain. It was either surgery or to put her down.

[Mary-intussuception in reply to Lostgirl]

That's very distressing. Was the operation high risk?

You need time to grieve your loss.

I wouldn't go to bed the first night after that final visit to the Vet with our last cat.

He used to sleep on the bed and wait at the top of the stairs till I finished using the bathroom in the morning. As I approached the top of the stairs, he'd run down ahead of me.

Was your boyfriend with you when you were at the vets? Did he agree?

He is probably very upset too.

[Lostgirl in reply to Mary-intussuception]

It wasnt high risk. Just very expensive.

No he wasnt with me. I called him and he didnt answer so i ended up making the choice by myself. He said he kinda knew that was going to hapoen.

[Ilovepugs123]

In my opinion, I think you should talk to him about it and if he still doesn't understand after you talk to him about it then its best you move on. Maybe he is taking this situation hard too and maybe isn't really showing it. It's best you talk to him and then after that, you decide what you want from him and if he is going to be there for you or not. I hope the best if you need someone to talk to I am here.

[Lostgirl in reply to Ilovepugs123]

I tried talking to him and he just send sad faces. Im ready to give up.

[Ilovepugs123 in reply to Lostgirl]

Honestly if he really cared he would of not send you sad face. Sadly it sounds like he doesnt really care.

[Lostgirl in reply to Ilovepugs123]

Yes that what i told him

[Ilovepugs123 in reply to Lostgirl]

I hope everything goes well and I hope you find someone who will treat you right and all that.

[Wiganladlovesapie]

Hi. I’m Andy.

Firstly. I am so very sorry to read about your loss. They are as much apart of our family, maybe more in a lot of cases, as 2 legged folk. I can’t say why your boyfriend is not being supportive. I can’t. I can say that he isn’t being supportive. He should be with you, consoling you. Making sure that you have everything that you need. I’d say to sit down with him and have a talk. Where do you see this relationship going? If you can’t see a future after then the only logical conclusion is to part ways, and go find your one. They are out there.

I hope you feel a little better very soon.

Take good care and we are thinking of you.

Andy🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[Lostgirl in reply to Wiganladlovesapie]

He isnt being supportive. It hurts. Im trying not to over react because of the situation with the cat passing away but it was unexpected

[venusofthenorth]

Do tell him what it feels like.

[Lostgirl in reply to venusofthenorth]

I have been. But i also do hold back i don't want it to seem like i am over reacting

[venusofthenorth in reply to Lostgirl]

You're not.

[saudraheem]

Sorry to hear about your cat. I think you should break up and move on find someone who really cares. Keep searching until you succeed.

Best of luck

[Lostgirl in reply to saudraheem]

Thank you

[Booklover0219]

I’m sorry for the loss of your little cat. It’s very hard to lose those sweet little babies. You don’t feel your boyfriend is the least bit supportive in your time of emotional need and it seems like that’s a red flag for you. Communication is key and I hope you’re able to have a talk with him and figure out what’s the best best step for you. Take care of yourself.