Feeling stuck in life

[Myntee]

Has anyone else struggled with living after graduating from college? I didn't think I would still be alive and now I feel stuck six months after I've graduated. I don't know my purpose or point of still being here. I'm not sure if anyone else can relate but it really is a struggle knowing what to do especially with anxiety and depression.

[Agora1]

Hi Myntee, unfortunately, the more we stay stuck in not knowing what to do with our lives

the more anxious and depressed we can get. At your young age of 22, why would you

believe that your life would have been over when you graduated. Did you have any plans

as to where your degree would take you? You accomplished so much to get where you

are but staying stuck for the last 6 months I think lessened your motivation to enter

the real world to reap in what you sowed.

Of course I don't know your home life situation or issues you may be dealing with but

finding your passion in life will give you that reason to live. You will never find that

within the 4 walls of your home. I hope that you take that step forward out of your

comfort zone. The world is at your feet, believe in that. Good Luck xx

[Myntee in reply to Agora1]

Thanks for replying Agora. Its hard to find motivation to go out and explore since I've had bad experiences doing so. But I'll keep trying. I see everyone else who graduated with jobs and living their best lives which makes me a little sad and demotivated. I guess that's life though.

[FauxxTrot]

I have a note on my phone that saysI am

Living this day

For the

Sole

Purpose of

Enjoying it.

You could argue that there is no other purpose. Some days waking up, getting up and brushing your teeth means success. Other days you have the energy to land the job of your dreams. For me as long as I can look in the mirror at the end of the day and either know I did my best or know there's still tomorrow.

[Myntee in reply to FauxxTrot]

This was really powerful, thank you. Its hard to remember the little accomplishments vs the big ones sometimes.

[designguy]

I think there is way too much emphasis on finding and following your "passion" and "purpose" these days and can be counter productive. What you might look at as a starting point is what do you enjoy doing and what could you make a living at and see if they align somewhat. The other suggestion is to use this time to get the help and resources you need to manage and heal your anxiety and depression so you are better equipped to get on with your life. Try to find a good therapist you can work with and you might even consider medication at least temporarily to aid in your healing.

[Myntee in reply to designguy]

Thank you, I'll try to keep this in mind. I do go to therapy but I guess I'm not doing anything else productive and feel this way.

[designguy in reply to Myntee]

That's probably a good sign that you might need to take this issue up with your therapist and have them help you investigate what is holding you back in life. if you feel like you aren't getting the results or help you need in therapy don't be afraid to fire them and find another therapist that will. it's your life and it's up to you to make it work for you, a good therapist can provide you with the insight, skills and understanding to heal but you have to do the work to heal.

[Myntee in reply to designguy]

I'll talk to them about it this week. Healing is really tough but hopefully it'll be worthwhile. Thanks for the advice, designguy.

[designguy in reply to Myntee]

Yes, healing is very hard work but it is definitely worth the effort and short-term pain and then it does get easier.