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Everyone around me is moving forward with their lives and leaving me behind but can't get mine together. I feel like the universe is trying to tell me that I'm right on the verge of a breakthrough for something I'm working on, but I feel this IMMENSE pressure from the world to just give up on it already. Be a normal adult, who cares if I struggle with chronic conditions or bpd?

It's too much. I just want something to work out and change for the better, but NOTHING will. I'm so tired of watching other people get what I want as I stay where I am despite working 24/7 to try and get my life together. WHEN WILL IT FINALLY BE ENOUGH!?!

I want to self harm. It's the only thing that releases this awful pressure, I know it's not good, but nothing good is happening in my life so why not?

and I swear this freaking keyboard is possessed

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CL3V3R-G1RL

it is difficult feeling like the world is passing you by. FOMO (fear of missing out) sets in.

Friends and family posting wonderful news on social media or telling you through conversations. And you feel like you have nothing to share because you feel you haven’t done nothing but trying to keep from drowning in this sea that is so unforgiving.

I know how hard is trying to find a therapy that works for you. And wanting to be a “normal adult”. I wanted that for the longest time myself. Finally I got it and it was great for almost a decade. Then I had a major set back. I’m like why did this happen? Haven’t I been through this enough? What didn’t get right that I have to face this all over again?

I feel for you I really do.

I wish I had the magic answer that would make all your problems go away.

Please don’t self harm. I’m pulling for you ❤️

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Nothingnoted

Please dont self harm yourself. You deserve so many good things coming your way please dont be so hard on yourself. You deserve to be happy and at peace. Im here for you. I feel like you do often. I know we can both overcome this. Please stay strong. I have faith in you. I wish you the very best. Sending positive healing warm vibes your way. Warm hugs, love, Gg🤗🤗

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Starrlight

I hear you and you are cared about. ❤️

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JasmineJaz

I think I know that feeling, the feeling that I'm running behind and no matter how hard I try, I'm not even getting close. And I couldn't put myself to rest, because the distance seems to be increasing every minute when I'm not pushing myself to move forward.

Not sure if your issue is with life or work. For life, we are never "left behind". It is not a race to win. Some people got ahead of everyone else and got married early, but some of them also divorced early. Some people are already losing hair by the late 20s. Some people couldn't make it into the 30s. There is no deadline to meet, we're just dealing with whatever life throws at us, and we receive different challenges. It is not fair to judge people by a single standard of time or age, because our challenges in life vary so drastically.

If your issue is with work, career, or whatever it is you're devoting most of your time into, I'll say don't be so hard on yourself, you are probably already doing a much better job than you realize. I seriously doubt if you didn't get any result from all the hard work, but perhaps the gains is not enough to reach the goal. How about taking a step back and validate what you've done, or perhaps talk to your manager/colleagues/friends who may support you and validate your achievements so far? How about talking to people that don't have what you want? I feel like most people are not having it so good themselves :P Chances are that you're already "ahead of" most people yourself.

It's funny, we all understand and support it when an athlete is wounded and takes time to heal before getting back on the track. But for mental conditions, people kinda just ignore it or judge the people struggling with it. I'm not a psychiatrist but I think it only makes sense to have a rest and heal before taking on the immense workload. I really hope that you're receiving adequate help from professionals, and you can always talk to us any time ❤️

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