I feel so ignored...

[Pinkclo27]

Hello,I'm a 20 yr old University student . To me,I feel a sense of fulfillment when somebody else notice my existence or value my presence,when I feel like I matter .But no matter what I do nobody seems care. I don't have any partner or don't have much friends. I never feel appreciated no matter how I dress, how perfect art I post . It's pretty mundane but I never even recieve any good night or good morning texts. It's not like that I don't approach people, I do ,but I seem like an unimportant existence to them . Sometimes it gets tough when you have. No one to share with any good or bad news . Sometimes I feel like it's probably because I am not pretty . Probably it's all my fault.

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Hi there. I'm sorry you feel this way; how awful! It is definitely not your fault, so please don't blame yourself for that.

[DodgeDhanda]

HI P27.

Firstly I suggest U concentrate on ur studies as that is what will set U up for the rest of ur life.

Friends are not as important as U & ur life are for ur future. PLEASE stop hating urself , if U don't like U then why should anyone else.

I'm not saying be fake but I'm saying start loving urself & respect urself as for beauty I believe it starts from within & exudes outward

We all at times hate who we are for silly reason but once it's in our heads it's hard to stop that negativity.

Also only U can help U , yes we can give U some support but the strength & belief all comr from U.

I wish U love and light on ur journey.

[just_keep_swimming]

Hi , I seek validation from people as well and I have been working on validating myself everyday and using positive affirmation to build myself up instead of needing it from others. University was also similar for me, I tried to make new friends / put myself out there but it never got the attention I was looking for, I realized if those people are ignoring me they don’t deserve to be in my life.

[dwhp]

Dear Pinkclo27,

you're only 20 and you have yet to start living life. don't let these negative thoughts cloud your head. don't rely on external validation, give it to yourself. i'm speaking from 30 plus years of experience. i'm learning how to not rely/expect validation from anyone. also, you are pretty, to yourself and to whomever that sees you that way. we are not copies of models or celebrities so no need to be photo edited. be you as much as you can and you'll attract the kind of people who like you for you. don't worry it'll happen and before you know it, your suffering will be over. i promise you it gets easier as we grow but we have to allow ourselves to grow. all the best!