Depression and anxiety

[1121]

I always mess up things in my life by over thinking everything till i mess it up just need to talk

[Tara52]

You are ok.. i've had to deal with those thoughts and suggestions before. They are not your thoughts. Don't .et them "bully" you. Kick them out! You have a right to enjoy this life. Have you ever looked into CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy)? It helps you control your negative thoughts. Check a short teaching on it by getting onto YouTube. Praying you find some relief today.🙏💗🙂

[1121 in reply to Tara52]

no

[Roxylox]

l've messed up a few things too. In my case acting while hurt and angry without thinking things through first. Welcome 1121

[1121 in reply to Roxylox]

i do that alot i always feel i have to leave every time things get rough i run i try not to but i cant stop i mess up everything

[Roxylox in reply to 1121]

l'm glad I'm not the only one.

[1121]

this time i lost a man i love because of it 💔

[Driftr in reply to 1121]

Focus on getting yourself healed and when the time is right things will work out with men!

[1121 in reply to Driftr]

i know i have to work on me now

[redrabbitniner]

I have had some success with CBT and also meditation—seeing and feeling the thought, then letting it wash away, before reacting.

[1121]

ive tried to not run but i feel like im jumping out of my skin and it wont go away till i do

[Agora1 in reply to 1121]

Hi dear, the one thing I've learned is that we can't run away from ourselves.

Those inner thoughts follow us anywhere we go. It could be about needing to be

in control of your life and when things happen you can't accept it and may even take

it as a failure. It is not a failure, it is an experience, a learning experience at that.

Overthinking can do nothing but confuse you more. Your mind must be clear and stable

before being able to make a rational decision.

There are many helpful videos on Positive Thinking on YouTube which has always been my go to. Learning about ourselves and the Mind/Body Connection can be a start. You don't want to stay stuck but rather move forward one small step at a time.

As Tara52 stated, don't allow these thoughts to bully you...Kick them to the curb.

A good video to watch is "Self Love Affirmations/Reprogram Your Mind while You Sleep"

by Jessica Heslop My best to you xx

[Stippler in reply to Agora1]

I keep recommending this book because my therapist recommended it to me and it has been very helpful for my "overthinking." It is called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It might not help you but it helps me when I fall into "overthinking." Welcome to the group, and I wish you the best. 🙏

[Agora1 in reply to Stippler]

Thank you again Stippler. We learn from each other through this forum.

It's nice to know we are in a safe understanding place with others who care xx

[1121 in reply to Agora1]

thank you

[Megapanda]

youtu.be/V3vhXQy48jo(Not working as expected?)

[Driftr]

Id be happy to listen! Your Doing aa better job than you give yourself credit for!

[1121 in reply to Driftr]

i just want to be normal

[Driftr in reply to 1121]

we werent made to be normal we were made to be unique in our own ways. Your doing a great job and things will get better. I know it may not seem like it in the moment but you matter!

[1121 in reply to Driftr]

thank you

[Driftr in reply to 1121]

You are welcome

[justgoosethings]

I have such a hard time with overthinking, especially with my relationship. One thing that’s helped is when I start overthinking I kinda pull myself aside and ask myself if I have any proof, like real proof. If not, I try to get past it, or just ask my s/o straight up about it. Most of the time I eventually ask anyway because the reassurance helps and I can remind myself okay no evidence plus my s/o said whatever so I need to calm down. Sometimes it helps, sometimes not but it’s always worth the try!

[1121]

i try but i cant calm down till i mess up everything than really get depressed cause i could of handled it differently now im just depressed