I don't even know why I try

[KarateKenny]

This girl I was talking to at work that I thought might be interested in me and asked why I was single and kinda poked fun at me not doing a good job looking for a girlfriend like made it clear that she's not interested in me in that way. I feel so defeated and feel like I'll be alone forever. I've felt fine recently too being single and all that but this just made me feel really bad

[Barneybetsy]

Please don’t let this girl destroy your confidence. All through life you will get negative reactions but if you are a nice person try to let it just go over your head. By being yourself and keep upbeat you will be eventually meet someone. My little Grandaughter who is starting senior school soon is quite shy. I have explained the above to her that all through life you will find people who can be unkind and not give you the time of day!! This is there problem you keep upbeat smile be friendly it will all fall into n place it is not you x you are fine and will be ok I promise don’t let people take away your confidence. Remember as well when with new people ask about them and soon you will be chatting and hopefully get to Like one another.

My Grandaughter had a day at her new school and she is starting with a few girls and boys from her class so us lucky but I was so proud when she said a girl who was there was totally on her own so she went over to talk to her and as I had said ask people about themselves which she did the girl really told her a lot and she is now texting regularly so just shows that just going for it can make all the difference but also sometimes you get a neagative reaction! Well so be it but don’t let it affect you too much move on it’s there problem. Don’t make it yours.

I promise Kenny you will be fine.

[KarateKenny in reply to Barneybetsy]

Thank you for your kind message and advice. I try my best to always be kind to everyone I meet. It might take me a couple days to feel better from this. Hopefully it doesn't take too long

[AnxiousSilver]

"This girl I was talking to at work"

"I feel so defeated and feel like I'll be alone forever. "

You're not going to be alone forever, but trying to date a co-worker usually ends up badly, and (while we are on the subject) trying to pick up a female at wherever she works usually ends up with you being shot down too. (because females in general don't like being picked up where they work)

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"I've felt fine recently too being single and all that but this just made me feel really bad"

If you're fine with being single (but open to dating down the road), then try making as many female friends as possible in the mean time.

Forget the one that was making fun of you, females in general (in the friends zone) are good to have. They know which of their friends are single and "possibly" compatible, or they may end up falling for you over time.

My best friend ended up marrying a female friend that he knew all the way back from HS. They both dated others in between, but realized that they were meant for each other. (and they are still married after 20+ years)

I had a girl that I dated for 5 years once that was a friend of mine. We dated others, and when be both became single, we ended up dating for a while too. It happens.

[KarateKenny in reply to AnxiousSilver]

Thank you for your advice. I feel like women never consider me as a partner. Two of the girls I asked out just thought it was to hang out as friends and this girl didn't even consider me as a potential partner. Idk why I give off such friend vibes

[AnxiousSilver in reply to KarateKenny]

I'm telling you, get as many female friends as possible.

I know what it's like to be 22.

I know that (some) guys don't want to put in the work of having female friends (as friends).

But I'm telling you, more good (a lot more good) than harm comes from that.

[KarateKenny in reply to AnxiousSilver]

I'm fine with having females as friends. I'm honestly more comfortable with women than men but I don't know how many more friends I can have. It's very draining for me to keep up with the friends I do have since I'm so introverted. I do have a couple females friends currently

[Alladin]

That is peer pressure. She is toying with you and some people get pleasure by making others feel bad. She might be bad news so be careful around her. Not everything is about girls and relationships. You are still young, take your time. You said you were fine at being single before this encounter. Protect that confidence. Just because everyone around has someone, it should not make you feel that you lack something in life. You don’t know how many of these couples feel they made a mistake and wish to get out of the relationship. We normally idealize relationships as making our life better but sometimes it can be a never ending nightmare causing one stress after another. I was alone for a long time before I met my wife. I simply enjoyed what life has to offer. Appreciating little things like having a job and a place to stay, and being able to go places even just at the mall or a park nearby. I love reading and went to the library a lot. I had a healthy outlook on life and started to have friends and they knew that I didn’t care if I was alone. I just focused on the positive aspect of it. I was well grounded and prepared by the time I got married in my early thirties. That is late for some people but not for me. It is your life, define who you are and what you need and do not let others belittle you or squeeze you into something you might regret. Take care, buddy and enjoy being single for now.

[KarateKenny in reply to Alladin]

Thank you for your nice message

[Justin-Sane]

You're far too young to worry about such things Kenny. You have your whole life ahead of you.

[Nanii]

It's okey to feel sad while bumbed, so you can let that be (for a bit, just for processingtime). But indeed try to look at it like Alladin said. She saved you a lot of headaches. Thank her internally. In the middle you might not feel it, but maybe later on you'll notice charactertraits in her which annoy you. The thing is, most people like the IMAGE they have of other people, not the person themselves. That's how I've dealt with rejections and afterwards I'm gratefull and understanding for every one of them. Thank you all dramasavers! (Which includes me, I can be drama or headache too).

[KarateKenny in reply to Nanii]

Thank you for your nice message. I've been feeling better

[Nanii in reply to KarateKenny]

Good to read is was helpful to you! I hope you gradually are better able to deal with these kind of things internally.

[KarateKenny in reply to Nanii]

Me too. I was kinda just freaking out lol

[Nanii in reply to KarateKenny]

It happens to all of us, it's okey While freaking out you learn how to deal I guess Eventually.