Alcoholic former friend

[Ajb8686]

Been awhile since I posted but here I am. Been almost a year since I cut ties with former best friend. Even though she’s very toxic to me but I’ve really started to miss her more lately. Not sure why. I’ve been looking at the text I sent her to end our friendship. Not the way I was hoping to do it but her drinking was mental destroy and the sound of her voice of excuses was just going to make it worse. She left me no choice. I had just gotten engaged and her behavior and trying to be there was effecting my relationship and that I can’t have. Wasn’t what else to do. Part of me feels bad I didn’t do it in person but on the other side I feel it sent a message to her the pain she’s caused me. Doubting she’s changed so why stress? Story of my life. Open to feedback or suggestions.

[kenster1]

hi maybe call them up or even send a text asking how they are.

[Ajb8686 in reply to kenster1]

It’s crossed my mind but not sure I’m ready. I’m still grieving cutting ties and still debating if want to reconnect or not.

[kenster1 in reply to Ajb8686]

yeah I understand your view but a text or a call is simpler for you rather than meeting in person.a lot of things can happen in a year they might have turned a corner for the better.

[Isinatra]

Instead of contacting her directly, you could ask mutual friends or acquaintances about her. Ending the friendship by text makes sense. It protected you from further, as you said, excuses and mental turmoil. I’m a recovering alcoholic and when I sobered up I had to end relationships with other active alcoholics . It was tough, but for the best and yes, I grieved, but I grieved that they were still drinking. I had AA get me through it all. You could try out Al-Anon. They can give you insight of caring about an active drinker. 🍀

[Ajb8686 in reply to Isinatra]

Thank you for your reply. I’m very happy to hear you’re doing a lot better. My step dad and future sister in law are alcoholics too. I feel I’m surrounded lol. I think going to Al-Anon would be a great idea. I have text a few friends here and there and most haven’t talk to her which isn’t surprising. She lost most of her friends from drinking. I was one of the feel left talking and hanging out with her. I’ve known her since I was 7 years old so ending my friendship with her was gut wrenching. I am in therapy but I think I’ll take you up on your suggestion. Thank you so much. Keep living the good life!

[Isinatra in reply to Ajb8686]

❤️👍🏼