Relationship Help

[RedLeatherYellow]

I am struggling and am so overwhelmed with what to do. I am so deeply connected to my girlfriend (this has to do with her being the first girl to love me) but there are so many problems with our relationship, and to be honest, I hate myself when I am with her. I get intrusive thoughts to break up with her, but it fluctuates. Sometimes I feel that way, sometimes I feel like I will be so so destroyed by what would happen that I feel trapped. We have been dating for 8 months and honestly I hope the relationship becomes healthy and happy but a lot of the time I don’t see that happening. I am living on the same floor as her next year (in college) and invested so so much into her that makes breaking up feel extra hard. I’m lost

[blackcat64013]

Hi and thank you for your post.

Relationships are not the easiest thing life has given us to deal with. 🤭

There so many feeling and emotions involved.

I can see that you are in the USA. This is such a good thing for you. Most of the education facilities provide a Student Assistance Program or SAP is it is often called. The SAP can provide confidential counselling which includes relationship support services. The SAP can support you to achieve a more positive relationship with your girlfriend.

If prefer not to use the SAP, talking the matter over with your girlfriend or a trusted friend would be the way to go.

Please remember no-one is a mind reader! You need to be the one to get the talk started.

Talking something over is hard. If you see the issue as a problem with a solution this is a great starting point.

Sometimes just watching and waiting also works.

All the best 🦘

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You can always love but, you don’t have to be my one & only. Give each other some time & space. Be kind, let yourself live the way you want to live