After beginning my new job two-and-a-half weeks ago, I decided to immediately resign this morning.
I really loved the job. I worked with animals and some great people. My boss was super critical of our work, and always nitpicking us. Today she actually berated us all, and called me a "f***** idiot" before telling me I am worthless. It was over an incident where she thought we were doing things incorrectly, but in reality it was her.
It triggered me very badly. I came home and resigned. It was hard to do, but I cannot be triggered so much. Ugh.
For the record, I had two other jobs where I worked for 10 and 5 years at each company. Since my PTSD diagnosis, I've been unable to work for about 2 years. Maybe I need more time.
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I get it. Job market is in your favor too. I know you were triggered. I had an incident that triggered me yesterday and today. Not that dramatic. How would it have been to talk to someone above her? Still might have meant leaving but it could be they are unaware and that really isn't behavior businesses can afford right now. You could still do it... for the sake of others. I did this and I got a great reference and connections from the CEO who was directly above my boss. There was just no way I could win against a CTO even if he is unstable. But the CEO was able to intervene for other folks.
I was told l was useless in my very first job 30 years ago. I recovered, but never forgot. Awful thing to say to anybody, worse in your case when undeserved. I must admit l did not like that job, yet like an idiot, stayed there 9 years. Was good at my recent work, but this was only recognised by one of the bosses. I also gave up.Different in my case, as l am now not too far from retirement age. You need to realise how wrong and incompetent this boss was.
Years ago when I was 17 I started a job as a care assistant on the weekends in a care home and on my first Saturday there one of the other care workers had called me useless which wasn't very nice!
I don't blame you for resigning. I can't believe a boss would think that it was ok to verbally abuse his employees that way! He needs to be reported! I was diagnosed with PTSD 4 years ago and I just started a part time volunteer job 6 months ago. I couldn't handle anyone yelling at me right now or ever really. Why should we? I hope you can be kind to yourself and take all of the time you need to recover.💕
I get it. A boss once told be I had a character flaw. I took my stuff and went and sat in my car at lunchtime and decided not to go back. The office manager called me at home and wanted me to come back. I didn't.
I would not be able to stay at a job where they were saying anything like that to me- especially with my history. I pray you get another job soon. I don't think this means you weren't ready. I think it is something abusive, and you (along with most people) need a healthy place to work. That was not it. Take care.
That 'boss', and I use that term loosely, definitely needs to be reported !! Noone should be speaking to employees that way. Put it all in writing and speak to someone above her and/or to a labor board. Her ass doesn't need to be in a position like that. If someone spoke to me like that, I would have had more than a few things to say back! Nobody deserves to be treated that way! I would have quit on the spot.
Good for you! You need to be with people who value you for you to keep steady. To me, it doesn't really matter if my boss needs to tell me to do something differently it's how they do it that's important - respectfully and appreciating at the same time you are doing your best and you're a human being......good luck in pursuit of a better work environment. I had the same experience once and then I worked at a hospice and I couldn't be valued enough it was lovely. They might pull me up about things sometimes but it was just in a way that they would prefer me to do it this way because...whilst you're not working, get out in nature and be with people who are good for you. Loads of love ❤️
Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement, and kindness! Thanks for sharing your experiences with me also. It definitely was a bad thing, coupled with PTSD and anxiety... it really messed me up. But I am ok today, working through the emotions. I cannot understand how someone can be so cruel to people and treat them in such an undignified way, but that is not everyone's view I suppose. Some people think that people are robots with no emotions, like this boss.
Last night was hard, I felt as though I made a rash decision, but I stand by my decision to resign. I refuse to be treated in such a way.
You can get a job where your boss treats you nicely or at least fairly x it's obviously one of your values and a good value at that. I think most people are trying to do their best but react differently under stresses and all the things we have to cope with but when you are working with someone who persistently takes it out on you and treats you disrespectful fully it's not ok and it's certainly not ok for your head.
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