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New here. Been going through a bit of a depression slump for the past week. All I want to do is be by myself in my home. The thought of being around others and socializing in the smallest way is exhausting to me. I've missed work and I just want to sleep and stay in. Pushing myself to get back to work tomorrow and wishing I had a job that didn't require me to talk to a single soul.

What do you do when you're feeling this way? How do you get out of this solitary slump?

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Hi - I am experiencing this too right now. I am so depressed I just feel exhausted all the time. I have gone to bed at 8 pm for the last 3 nights in a row because I just can't stay awake. Sometimes the hardest thing for me to do is simply get started. Today I did not want to start working, but I did. It is definitely not my most productive day, but at least I can go to bed feeling like I did something. Count your small wins, getting up, making your bed, brushing your teeth etc. are all small victories. Don't be too hard on yourself, do what you can and make sure you are giving your body what it needs. I also always forget to eat and drink water when I feel this way, which certainly doesn't help. Do what you can! feel free to reach out to me if you want to talk more :)

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Inmyhead247 in reply to collegestudent1234

Thanks for your response. I wasn't expecting one so quickly. I definitely agree with listening to my body and doing what I can. I've been dealing with depression for about 7 years and that's one things I've had to teach myself ...to listen to myself and that these feelings are temporary. Tomorrow I am determined to make it into work and make it through the day. I know I'll feel better doing that.

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Roxylox

Gradually make yourself go for a walk. It can help a lot. I understand, outside of this site l am not much of a people person. Have to push myself to leave the house when on my own.

In my case it doesn't help that l have been badly treated by pdople in the past (verbally) particularly at work. Have you had such problems at all.

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Inmyhead247 in reply to Roxylox

I did sit outside today for a bit and my friends have been pushing me to walk, even saying they'll come walk with me... but I really dont feel like getting changed and going out.

I cant say Ive experienced my co-workers or superiors talking down to me but I do work in a stressful environment where there is a lot of negativity. Have you addressed these issues with your superiors? or is it coming from them?

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Roxylox in reply to Inmyhead247

It was coming from them. I have decided work doesn't work out for me. It was minimum wage, and so tough. I'm pusbing on anyway so Am going to apply for disability, have bipolar. Not sure if I will qualify or not.

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Inmyhead247

No good reason they should have been verbally abusing you but at the same time a min wage job may not be worth the aggravation. Good luck applying for disability...don't be discouraged if you get denied once or twice first...it's a process.

Good news though...I went for a walk!

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Roxylox in reply to Inmyhead247

Well done for going for that walk.

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Daveacr1959

I get 6-8 hours of sleep each night. I start every morning with the Wim Hof guided breathing exercises free on you tube. You tube has less aggressive ones if you don’t like these . I do 30-60 minutes of you tube aerobics or jogging in place. I rinse in a 10 minutes cold bath or shower. I started at cool and worked my way to cold. This cold water is nature’s antidepressant and anxiety medicine. It’s ok to be alone for a couple days. And binge watch movies etc. But you have to work and be around loved ones.

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Inmyhead247 in reply to Daveacr1959

That's an impressive plan you have there. I can be around my loved ones if they come to my house...but I don't want to go anywhere else.

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Daveacr1959 in reply to Inmyhead247

Try my plan , see if it helps

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Lve2dance

Just take it one moment at a time... It helps me especially when some days I just want to get up to go to work..talk to the, people here and hopefully if it helps also talk to a therapist.. I just started for the first time..

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Inmyhead247 in reply to Lve2dance

I finally went back to work today after 6 days away and yes it was nice to see my closest coworkers and have their support. ❤️ I do see a therapist every 2 weeks too 😊

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Lve2dance in reply to Inmyhead247

I go every week so far

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Lve2dance in reply to Inmyhead247

My therapist is really cool 😎

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Hollick

Inmyhead, I'm not sure, feel like you most days, the mornings and starting the day(s) are brutal...Idk what else to say other than I hope someone from up above is looking down upon in a real time of need...

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Inmyhead247 in reply to Hollick

Yes! Why is it that I always feel worse in the morning!? By nighttime I generally feel better but then it starts all over the next day.

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Lve2dance in reply to Inmyhead247

I hear you.. I get up, sleep well, but feel so off.

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Hollick in reply to Inmyhead247

Its called diurnal mood variation, or morning depression..the patient generally feels better as the day wears on...I know, I have it, its vey real and awful to live with....lots of anxiety usually accompanied with it...look it up, might help put things into persepective and treatment..good luck...

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Inmyhead247 in reply to Hollick

I have read about this before. Seems pretty accurate.

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Lve2dance in reply to Inmyhead247

Interesting 😁 thanks

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