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How Not to do it

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I gain experience by watching people wiht more experience and watch people and they are my neg mirror- wake up call of ....what not to do....sounds mean but its the facts of life. (common knowledge here but all us old tiners try to pass on lessons to the underdogs.....the rich can afford any horse, any trainer and yada yada yada......dont take it personally if we pass on lessons to those who are born with a silver spoon in their mouth) ..

My landlord dresses out at 400 pounds,,,,nicest contractor in the world....refuses to do unethical work or charge people often and always helping people (at his detriment hes so generaous) forgotten more about construction wiring plumbing and has 40 yrs of experence.....but ....he not young and glamours.......He took in his wifes daughter and her kids......all just meaner than sin and rag on him and his elderly wife al the time.......he is takng them in for free and ........get this.......they could be learning a millin things from him but......they nit pick on him .........the master of four trades.......and kind to a fault....

i m his grunt....adn with another contractor as i know the apprentice ship system works..........while i do the leg work.....im learning 1000 dollar an hour lessons in the trades whidh is life long lessons.......think about that....hear that.......the jobs people complain about i do with relish........as i ...get to work for the masters.........its redisioculus simple.............same as anyone could come up ot me and if they were kind or polite.....ask me to teach them about art horses construction carpentry geology biochem physics chemisrtry history and blah blah...driving backin g up trailers tack cleaning runintg barns hookintg up eequipment dhain saws and bob cats heavy equipement and course and jumpint design, deressage jumpintg anthropoloty etc..................as log as u wil be constructive and not a jerk or shide to an older man.....u..........the kid of any age......gets the gold........all for free......anxiety or not shy or not ......because ur not a diva ur not a snide jerk like these three horrbile people are to my landlord..............u dont look down ur nose becasue im not twnty and a gorrrrgous olypic rider..................and will listen to the pearls of umpteen years of epxerience all boiled down to five things..........u will listen and get the adanced class .......the stupid will look at me and snear and snide becasue im not an olupi rider or super rich or glamorus or horse show gorgeous or drive a beamer........see how that works? i .........do all the grunt work.........and tget to work with all the masters of the trades..........learning a trade......adn all the insights.......all their wisdom and eperinece that others......wont because they arent hungry enough.....just like i could aprpecaintice for a great painter and wash thier brushes and anandndna ...all or which i need to learn to do............but others......see as too hard or menial..or wahtever........sorry but i cnat relate....

sooooooooo at 64 i get to learn ...beause im not smart but im smart enough to work as a goofer or as an apprentice......which was an is a genuis of system....if u can find safe old teacher mentor people in that frield.....a su chef or understudy to a gtreat actor......same dif........shadow someoe in the field u want...........

im not not not not saying im exeptional.....im saying im not.........but i learn the tade the biz the quiopement the judtmetn countless lessons and.......what stress.........and ......i listen to theri decisons and how they juggle and they take all the burdens til im ready ror rheir wshoes........what anxiety..........then ..........after long time......im

ready...............ready to step into tthose shoes......me el stupido....slow brainno..not too bgright a bulb.....shy acwkard...............now............now ........im ready for the next step under the eye of the old master sno one wants to work for........clean their tools and the wahea barrows and .....i learned 9999999 thosand dollars in how to bujlid a custom rock wall and concrete work and got onnected to a tree farm and learned agout trees i didnt know and how to raise chickens and andndandna ....while im diggin a ditch and moving rocks..........

see.....so u want to learn about horses.....u go to an old fart liek me and we start with a brush....on a safe old hosss....and and u dont dump on urwelf that ur a beginner and im not young and kevin kostner......or brad pitt.......

ya but brig how come u wont teach them............i will says i .....for 500 dollars an hours........they are divas and snot nosed rich snots mean to eadhi toher an only care agbout ribons and how goreous they are in ........and and

but brig......dont u know the new zealand coach......sure.....adn and and and and .....sure.............but see kid.......any age ......u treat me decent whereas they laugh at the old geeser.............too bad they dont know.........im the championship course designer......

got anxiety shy alone unwanted....feel useless, scared to death ......afraid of rejection againd of falure.........u find an old geezer and ........juice help out....be the goofer........

didnt know his coach is in sweden...............oh ...see kid ..........he does ride in his gtood clothes til then........til then............hes just the old fart.....

apprentriceing we will go aprpentidingt we wil go high ho the dairy oh a preacintice int we will go.........works efery tme......anxiety or not.....scared or not sociaillly awkaeare or not.....shy or not.....btuful or not............any*** experience is experinece

and ur smart enought ot know that workingt with the master .....is life liesssons worth a

fortune..........they will

NOT hand off to the snot nosed rich snotty entitled people ..........but will

to the sand lot kids of any age.............how hungry are u.............

hey mister.......clean yer chicken house......wash yer car.....hey mister pull uer weeds

move the sets in the theatre...wash rhe dishes.....ah be bus boy...make the salads.....

kid.......ur on.........(any age.........any gender............we all have a soft spot for some dyint to learn.....hwoefer scared however awkward however a big nose....or or ror .....

the apprendice ship

works................worth millionhs..........of life lessons............and connections and steppint stones............we aint

goig to giver our life lessons

to

divas.........

no way.........no.......how.........

make urselr useful...............kid ur alreaedy a winner........u dont pay no attention to the bearmer crowd or their ribbons or ..................u lonly worry......about what i think......and i take u .......all .....the way.....u had the guts

to say ...hey mister.......got some work

divas never say that.......

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ive taken countless under my belt and tererifed koreans and disabled no one would touch....so this aaint theory.......they were the pleasure v the entitled and super entiled.....and tohers who look downtheir noses ....at kind old teachers...........i wont............teach them ....and i mean i wont.................not for 500 an hour..........u go see the spanish riding school....i dont have the stolmach for u rich divas snots........

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