Fighting the battle alone

[Mentalchic]

I don't know where else to turn. I can't seem to get an appt with a therapist so maybe someone with a similar background could offer advice. My entire family hates me. It started off with just my mom but after I had my daughter she told everyone her dad was abusive (not true) and they still think he is and I'm blocking them out for no reason. They are the kind of people to drop everything and anything for anyone but but me. I have to go out of my way all the time and if I don't answer every time they call I get hateful voicemails. That is my family. Toxic as can be. In top of that I don't have any friends to talk to about any of that because they all have healthy loving families. So I'm dealing with my depression eating me alive every day and it is so hard to fight to get out of bed to go to work. I like my job but anyone with depression knows getting up to start the day can be a battle. So I guess my question is what do I do if I can't talk to anyone about deeply pressing issues because they won't understand?

[Roxylox]

I usually reccomend journalling now. Didn't do it much in my young fays, but find it helps now. Write down your words you can't say, then you can tear it into little pieces if you want.Also singing along to expressive songs.

[Nanii]

What you're doing now is an example. Trying reaching out to other people, because there exist a lot of people who would be able to understand your situation. You just don't know them personally. So things like this can help if it doesn't work out in your surroundings, but it would be nice if you could find likeminded people personally also. Your social circles appearantly don't fit you, so try keep searching or be open for changes. Knowing there are others, even if I don't know them personally, can give me strength. Also concerning mild things like weird hobbies. Maybe nobody I know like that thing, but knowing there are many people in the world liking that thing, I can keep contuNuing enjoying and liking that thing until I meet some of thos people in real life. Really happened. From all alone and being called weird, to being surround by these "weirdos". What's really weird then right?

Personally I connect best with people with issies and certain labels (psychological labels), because such people experience things in ways we can relate to each other.

[fauxartist]

For most of us, we do find some family and friends just don't know what to say or do when we share our mental issues, so they avoid us, change the subject, or tell us unhelpful suggestions they think we need to hear like, 'just get over it', 'just move on', ' grow up', or 'don't you think other people in the world have bigger problems than yours?'

The first thing I had to do was get a proper diagnosis, and then a therapist who understood depression and mental injury from abuse. Someone who taught me that my issues were valid, my pain was valid, and a diagnosis doesn't define us, it helps us in knowing where to start the personal work to learn to live with this stuff, and also a healing process from any emotional hurt we endured feeling alone with this. We are not alone, there are millions of us, but very few adequate venues to express our stuff and interact. This place has become the best to do that, other than face to face groups that may help some of us too.

[DodgeDhanda]

Hi MC , Welcome to ur new online family & friends group.

In this place U will find others that have been through what's happening to U & hopefully they chat to U & help U get through things . We don't judge here ( I HOPE ) for the simple reason we are all on a journey & don't want to be judged either.

Now personally from me I would cut out the negativity that is family as from what U have written ur mother is a liar & loathes U .

Now a controversial question & please don't take rhis the wrong way but ur baby's father , is he the same colour as urself & I ask as some folks do hold a grudge against some folks just cuz of their skin colour , even if they're a Saint!!! I mean a majority of Christians don't realise Jesus was brown not white as pictures & paintings make us think. I digress. I do hope colour isn't an issue. Whare is the baby daddy , is he have an active role in his child's life ?

It maybe time to strike out on ur own & build a life for U & ur baby in a healthy positive environment away from the toxicity that's at ur mom's.

I do hope U find a way forward that holds great times ahead for ur child & urself .