Lost my world and reality feeling this can't be real

[Jaae]

2021 devastated me the world is not the same I don't seem to handle my reality death of my dad and son in the same year people speak about disconnected I feel like and tell myself things aren't real I'm not coping in health ways grief plus these mental challenges I feel so unreal and desperate and scared lost between traumas on top of trama and my world is out of control in a state like this I'm crashing how can I help me

[hypercat54]

Hi Jaae I am so sorry for your losses, it's a double whammy. One loss of a loved one is hard enough but two is horrendous. No wonder you are feeling so awful. Grief is a strange thing and you have to go through it to be able to come out the other side. The world is a different place and it always is after the loss of a loved one. I felt the same when my parents went and physically felt the world move sideways and was aware that my reality was always going to be slightly different in the future. It is a very surreal feeling isn't it.

Sometimes life is so awful all you can do is hunker down and lick your wounds and it's ok to fall apart and not be able to cope. Just do what makes you feel better at the moment no matter what it is and don't try and cope with life but just your grief.

It does get better over time, trust me. What helped me was to deliberately put some time and distance between me and the events.

Wishing you the best. Take care. x

[Arymretep]

Sending deepest sympathy for your losses, you will get through this, you are stronger than you think ,😘

[Mrspjsmom]

Jaae I'm so sorry you are dealing with so much pain right now. Please try to take good care of yourself as you process all of this. It will take time but I hope eventually happy memories of your loved ones will make you smile a bit. In the meantime grieve any way you want to. There is no set time or correct way to grieve. We do it in our own way. HUGS and BLESSINGS

[lovetodance2018]

Hi Jaae, thank for reaching out and sharing here. I am so sorry for your losses. It has to be devestaing to have your world turned upside down by losing the ones you love. You mentioned you aren't greiving in a healthy way. What do you mean by that? Have you been to therapy or to a greiving support group? Many churches provide greiving support group. Having others who understand your pain and can relate to what you are going through really helps. It is essential that you don't isolate yourself and reach out for help. Here is an article that you might find helpful (bit.ly/3ILkCp2). I will be praying for you. If you need someone to chat with please feel free to pm me. It helps to talk about the ones you lost and share wonderful memories. Hugs and God Bless

[Hidden]

Hi Jaae,My sincerest condolences for your losses. Thank you for sharing. Please do so as much as you need to as a way of processing. I too lost a loved one (my mom) this past year and am taking her death extremely hard. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Grief takes as long as it takes. You will get through it. It won't be without immense pain, though.

One thing that the hospice worker told me: grief is like a rock that you carry around in your pocket. Sometimes it's a boulder (unbearably painful), will other times it's a pebble (bearable). Please be gentle, kind, and patient to yourself. You will work your way through this in your own way and in your own time.

[Jaae in reply to Hidden]

Yes the rock and pebble but also this disappearing of myself

[Hidden in reply to Jaae]

I hear you. It is VERY painful.

[Roxylox]

Perhaps journal, keep posting here. Perhaps join a bereavement group

[Jaae]

Maybe I just don't seem to stick to anything especially when it triggers hurt and I feel like no one understands

[kenster1]

hi so sorry to hear of your losses god bless them both.we have a bereavement forum here called bereavement care and share great little community sadly all of us have one thing in common the loss of loved ones.

[lovetodance2018]

How are you feeling this week? I have been praying for you. Hugs