HOW TO HAVE A BETTER BIRTHDAY

[blackcatsrule]

EDIT: MY BIRTHDAY IS MARCH 31ST

OG: i wanted to say" how to make sure my birthday doesn't suck?". it seems too negative. I'm turning 26. There is tension between my friends(only 2 people who are my roommates)and I. So they probably dont involve with me. My family doesn't really celebrate my birthday. I'm depressed or anxious around this time. I'm work on my actual birthday. Which is okay because i'm toddler teacher and bring a treat in for the kiddos. I"m looking for that. My niece is performing that day too. I might go to that. This is selfish but i want a spotlight in me. i want to be around people who care about me. I want to blow out my candles and not be alone on my birthday.

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Happy Birthday in advance 🥳🎂🎁🎉💫

Happy Birthday

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

I told you, and there's your first wish xx

[blackcatsrule in reply to Agora1]

Awww

[Agora1]

Hi blackcatsrule x Give us the date of your birthday and you will besure to get many wishes from true friends on this forum.

You're young it's not selfish to want the spotlight on you. After all,

it's your special day, a day to celebrate you being here

The candles will be virtual but I bet there will be cake...some people have

been known on this site to put a delicious looking b-day cake up as well

as a song or two.

Get your dancing shoes ready, time is coming to Celebrate You xx

[tofler]

Hi, it's definitely not selfish to want to have a little bit of spotlight and attention on your birthday, I think lots of us probably wish for some of that (in one way or another). Unfortunately it sounds like your roommates and your family aren't going to do much for you on your birthday, so I think my main suggestion would be to try and plan a few nice things for yourself on your birthday. I know it's not the same as having other people to do this for us, but I think it's important for us to value our self and to be able to say to our self that "Today is my birthday, so I'm going to do some nice things for myself because I deserve it and I'm going to do...."

I love that you're teaching toddlers on your birthday and that you're planning to take a treat in for them. Little kids get so excited about things like that, it'll be a lovely treat for them and will make a big difference to their day and I think it'll make a difference to your day as well. Maybe you could take a birthday cake to work, to have with them (even if you're not allowed to light the candles on it). Doing "random acts of kindness" like this for other people, can help to lift our spirits as well and it gives us a bit of a boost. Try to think of some other birthday treats for yourself as well, even if it's something that you have to do on your own (for example a shopping trip to buy something nice for you).

Thinking about the longer term, I know it's not easy to meet new people and make new friends, but is there anything you can get involved in that might get you meeting more people and then more friendships might develop from there. There's a phrase that I sometimes hear which is about "finding your people". I wish I'd been better at making friends when I was younger. Anyway, I hope you have a really nice day on your birthday!

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I’m so sorry, I know how you feel. I’d like to not be alone on my birthday either. Happy early birthday

[Mrspjsmom]

Fill your day with activities and people that make you happy. It's your day to celebrate yourself. I truly hope you have a wonderful birthday.