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My birthday is coming up

I tend to freak out because I chose not to have children and my brother and his wife lead their own lives and i dont want to be a burden on them

Anyways I seem.to be ok with this birthday like I accepted things.

Change of subject

I was born a blue baby forgot to mention that in my first post. My biological mother had me in a bathroom in Korea and she left me with my umbilical cord wrapped around my neck. Yeahhh

I've been adopted by the most AMAZING family they are my real family.

I think that's it ty for listening

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Happy birthday

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Hi ty very much

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Hi I get this as my youngest sister is the same. She lives locally but has 2 grand step children, the youngest is around 7 now and I have never even seen him. She has made it very clear she only has time and energy for her own family (one grown up son, and 2 grown up stepchildren). I even get ignored at Christmas. I do have a number of friends though who always remember my birthday and I spend my time with them instead. It is hurtful though isn't it?

I hope you have a good birthday and spend it with those who care about you. x

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Every holiday I’m mostly alone because my bf is at work. He works at a hotel

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Hi I'm sorry that you spend your birthday alone.

You should treat yourself to something on your birthday.

A spa day go to the mall buy yourself something you deserve it!

And ty for the birthday wishes 🤗😊

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Ya I should do that

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Absolutely! Save some money and go all out on yourself 🤗😉

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Groupon always has cheap fun stuff

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Indeed they do

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Cyh8513 in reply tohypercat54

Hi I'm sorry that your family does that to you.

As long as you have your friends and they are there for you it's like better then being alone.

Hugssss

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hypercat54 in reply toCyh8513

Much better and I would rather be with my friends anyway. They are much better coz I know they like and want me. Stuff my sisters! x

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Cyh8513 in reply tohypercat54

Im.glad your friends support you

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hypercat54 in reply toCyh8513

They don't support me in my depression if that's what you mean as they don't believe in depression. That's ok though as we always have a good time.

Having said that one friend does as she suffers from it herself at times. x

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Cyh8513 in reply tohypercat54

My bad I must have misunderstood you.

That stinks that they dont support you I'm sorry.

Glad you guys have fun!

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hypercat54 in reply toCyh8513

Don't be. Not all friends have to understand in order to be friends. My depression doesn't define me and I feel better after time spent in their company. x

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Kkimm in reply toCyh8513

Hi

Happy Birthday by the way.

I get why you feel stressed out about your Birthday coming up. I get the same for a different reason.

My reason is that unless I not only tell my partner what to buy he will not buy me anything. He probably would not get me a card even. I know that he loves me not because he says it. He doesn't. I know it because he is always there for me and does lots of little kind caring things, for example if I say I am going on a bike ride he will get my bike out, check the tyres etc without me even asking. So why mind about the Birthday thing, but I do mind, big time.

I also get the argument about if it matters if friends or relatives understand our anxiety or depression or not. I mind that my partner does not get it and it is brilliant that my daughter does. If my friends were my main source of support I would probably mind alot if they did not get it. As it is I have one friend who does because she had been through it herself and others who I have told and do not get it and others I have not told because I know they would never get it. I have fun with all of them and on the whole do not mind whether they get it or not. Sometimes if I am low or extra vulnerable for some reason it does upset me when they say something that shows they don't get it.

I think if friends are your main source of support, it is bound to hurt you if they don't get it.

Kim

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I’m noticing people don’t support me either. It’s because they don’t understand. People think crazy people are weird or in the past, are criminals. People don’t understand mental health

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No but why expect them too? Unless you have experienced it yourself or loved ones have there is no reason for them to understand. Do friends have to know to be good friends? Having people who take your mind off your own problems is invaluable. x

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What are you talking about ? When you say, “ there is no reason for them to understand”. People don’t understand meaning they don’t get it. They can’t comprehend.

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People know right and wrong why can’t they know how to be a good friend?

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Well if one of your friends say had cancer would you understand? I know I wouldn't know or what to say either to help them. x

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Happy early birthday! My umbilical cord was wrapped around my neck too. Among other medical issues. You are amazing and great! And I hope you have the greatest birthday ever!

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Aw thank you means a lot.

I'll be 34 ughh

You too are an amazing courageous and strong person hugsss

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Florida1959

Happy birthday to you xxx

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Cyh8513 in reply toFlorida1959

Ty!!!

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Want2BHappy3

What is a Blue baby? Never let Society detate how you should live your Life. One of my daughters asked me is it ok if she didn't give me a grandchild? I'm like NO, that's not going to make a difference for me, don't let Society put that kind of Pressure on You. Live for your self. That's Great that you have Awesome adoptive parents.

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Cyh8513 in reply toWant2BHappy3

Hi

A blue baby is someone who had their umbilical cord wrapped around their neck at birth.

It's ok about me not having kids.

I appreciate your kind words. 😊🤗💓

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Want2BHappy3 in reply toCyh8513

Your Welcome, stick to your guns, it's the Hardest Job on the planet... I call it a "LIFE SENTENCE"!!!

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Zanzibar4

Happy Birthday Cyh8513🍰🍰

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Ty so much

Wow what a start to the world for you ...yet you're still here..and special..there's only one you! May you have a beautiful birthday..filled with joy!

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy & hugs!!!

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Ty so much

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Sharaybia

Happy birthday I hope you enjoy your special day.

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Ty so much

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You're welcome

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kenster1

hi hope you have a great birthday all the best to you.

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Ty! So much

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JkBrauer

Happy Birthday ! I hope you have a most blessed and wonderful day!

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Ty! So much

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Happy Easter! :)

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Ty 🤗

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Happy Birthday to the baby who lived! 🎈 I hope it’s wonderful and you find the joy in small things!

I have also chosen not to have children. My family is pretty small and don’t live too close. My sisters and I understand each other pretty well, but we don’t really talk to each other. It’s a personality trait we have. So I get it. My birthday is near Christmas so it tends to get overlooked. This last birthday was celebrated with dinner with my husband, a month and a half later and was more of an afterthought...”oh, you love this restaurant, this can be your birthday dinner.” I don’t have close friends and it feels hardest at my birthday. I always wonder why I care but I know it’s because I see others celebrate so big.

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Cyh8513 in reply toalohamora13

Ty for the birthday wishes

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EmJay210

Happy Birthday! Don’t feel sad on your birthday, go out and do something that makes you happy! Glad you’re thankful for a wonderful family adopting you, they chose you. Be glad and happy, life is full of possibilities!

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Cyh8513 in reply toEmJay210

Awe ty!

I'm going shopping up in Lee Massachusetts at the outlets. 😊🙂

Hugsss

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Roscoe78

Happy birthday😊

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Ty so much

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Miffy49

People who "choose" to not have children can't expect other ppl to fill the void of their own past choices. Everyone does live their own life.

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I know this...

Im.just saying at times it's still hard for me

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Happy Birthday

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Thank you!

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