Advice on how to get better

[Meyer_Gdmnx]

Hi guys firstly I want to thank everyone on this wonderful platform who replies and has helped support me when I have posted on here and I hope you all are staying safe and well. I just really need some advice guys I’ve signed up for psychological treatment for my anxiety in the that starts in the new year. But I’ve just felt like there has been a steady and slow decline I don’t sleep well at e.g 4/5 until midday I have zero motivation or ambition don’t really care about anything at all and yes I’m sure that some this is due to me grieving the loss of my father I don’t really think about him and I have no idea why I loved him so much and we were incredibly close but I’ve felt nothing before during or since his passing in March. I want to get better but I just don’t know how people suggest I go on walks or runs etc but I just don’t I can never really seem to get it together enough to do so. I’m also too afraid to eat meals that I don’t deem “safe” for example pasta risotto cereal pizza and I’ll occasionally have some chicken and rice that my brother likes to make. I’m afraid to cook or touch meat in any way as I am to cook things that are out of my comfort zone. I’m sure all this attributes to me feeling the way I feel as well as having an unwanted house guest. But I just don’t know how to even begin to get myself out of this hole it just feels like it was my destiny or it is so deeply ingrained in me that it’s who I am now. And I just don’t have that thing that others do that makes me able to organise a basic day to day structure. Has anyone ever felt like his and do you have any advice?

Thank you for taking the time to read this stay safe and well

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Join healthy eating or watch YouTube on cooking or use Pinterest to improve your life - any subject youtube!!

[Meyer_Gdmnx in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much for your reply I just worry I’m slipping into a deep depression and can’t get motivated to get out of it

[Hidden in reply to Meyer_Gdmnx]

Take the first step and try easy cooking and your next goals will be easier - let me know how you get on

[Agora1]

Hi Meyer, I'd like to address your starting therapy at the first of the year. I think it would benefit you a lot. It sounds like you've been holding in emotions since your father passed.

It's something that needs to be let out or it will affect you in other ways. (sleeping issues for one)

When my father died tragically from a house accident years ago, I was able to hold it all together following the accident, in ICU and at his funeral. Not a tear was shed and yet

I adored my father. We were very close, like you and your dad. I thought it was a strength

in me at first but then I started to react to his loss both physically and emotionally.

The shock had worn off and reality was setting in. I needed months of therapy to get through the grieving and tears that needed to be shed. I wish you well with your therapy sessions. It's more than time to let out all you feel or don't feel. xx

[Bigbrighteyes96]

I would start slowly with something small and simple however basic it may seem it will be a stepping stone and something to build on. Do you have any goals? Lets say you have a goal to with cooking - you can break them down into pieces - however small and start from there.

[Jim-Z]

A therapist you feel comfortable with can be an important part if your recovery. Consider talking to your doctor for advice on finding a therapist. Also discuss with your doctor the symptoms you are currently experiencing. Reach out to your closest friend who has a kind heart.