agrophobia

[dalton999]

hi everyone.thought i would have a say on my agrophobia.40 years now.had to go far,dont like open spaces,tall buildings,i have anxity and depression .its a shame had ok life.i feel sorry for my kids they have never been anywhere with me.i try to go out as much as possible,but am bit better compaired to years back,14 months couldnt go out.its taken long time.i have panic attacks and this stops me in my life am now 59 lol.i do find that if i can stay in a horrible place,things sometimes change.its always a thing of keep doing what you dont like.but easier said then done i no.anyway my best wishes to everyone whos simular to me etc.

[kenster1]

my mum was agoraphobic my brother more or less is as well now.

[dalton999 in reply to kenster1]

thats so sad am sorry to hear that.its very hard.but its all down to thinking to yourselfs etc,am i going to let these feeling beat me,as there not nice ,but the more your family keep doing the same things,like walking say 10-20 yards it will become easier.then its a case of moving again abit more.like i say its not easy,am a very good talker to others but i dont help myself enough,i let this beat me for 40 years.i do things abit better at times,but still i dont go very far.i was doing quite good untill covid and new shops being built as i dont like tall buildings,long story but i still make myself go.i no this its not a great help to your brother etc.but as they say lifes to short,i send my best wishes to family hope they can get there.

[Agora1]

Hi dalton999, I was completely Agoraphobic for 5 years, hence the name Agora1.It was an incredibly scary time of my life and yet proved to be an important part of

my healing.

Using that time to overcome my fear of everything was difficult but I never pulled

back. I turned this world upside down in finding anything and everything that would

bring me back in control again.

First thing was addressing the main root of my problem. After 5 years, fear had beget

fear and there seemed to not be a safe place I could escape to. With determination, I

vowed to pull my strength from deep within me. I never waivered in thinking I may not

be able to do it. I kept positivity my main focus. I just knew I would eventually win over

anxiety and when I did (not if but when) I vowed to "pay it forward". And here I am, going

on 7 years on this forum supporting others to believe that it can be done.

I'm happy to Welcome you to this amazing site. You've just taken your first step forward.

xx

[dalton999 in reply to Agora1]

thankyou for kind email agroa1 it all helps.am so glad you have moved on,sounds great news to hear someone beating it all.

[dalton999 in reply to Agora1]

remenber its hard but lifes to short.at the moment am by myself which i didnt think i could ever do.its been hard ever dossed 4 times but now just trying to move on.like i said am a good helper and talker with others but dont help myself enough lol.regards dalton ?

[Agora1 in reply to dalton999]

Right now dalton, it's got to be about you first. Working on your fears.Whatever it is, fear is fear. I do know how difficult it can be especially

because others around us don't understand. But we do and we will

be here to help you through the steps of going forward. You are not

alone xx

[dalton999 in reply to Agora1]

thankyou agora 1,it means alot.if only the people i no knew why am so sad etc at my local pub 5 mins away,but because its along story and people have there own problems i dont say much.but thankyou for your kindness.regards dalton

[AuntBee]

Dalton, Im curious to know how it all started. It sounds like the problem started when you were 19. Is that correct? Do you remember when the angrophobia actually began? What triggered it?

[dalton999 in reply to AuntBee]

hi aunt bee,i got in with wrong people and got sent to a detention centre miles away from home for 3 months.thats when i had panic attack.later it got worse started having them being away on days out,then aniexty and depression creeped in.and when i was around 21 i went with friends to buy a drum kite down london and on the way back has i crossed the road,i was looking at a side of a house which had a painting on it then i looked up abit and saw the post office tower,i could of died it scared the hell out of me not knowing it was they,hence i dont like seeing tall buildings etc.hope this may help you abit it is a very long story.