Yesterday, I went to go hang out with a "Friend" and she put her wallet in my backpack and when I got home I noticed that it was in my bag, I called her and texted her about it and she said she forgot about it and I said me too. She won't come to my house to get her wallet, yesterday she was acting sketchy, right when I told her about her wallet she asked me if I can go to her house and drop it off but my mom said no because her house isn't close to my house and it's her fault for her to forget her wallet. I had talked to her on the phone and she kept telling me that she couldn't come because her husband has the car later to go to work so she can't come by but every time I mentioned something she would get bossy and give me an attitude but she would hang up on me so many times so then she messaged me asking if I can bring it later on and I said no, I'm going to be busy if she can meet me halfway, she said she can't because she has to do English and Math and study for her math test, so I put I have things to do and she said if you can't can you drop it off at my work on Monday and I said I am going to be busy all day Monday and she put she was going to try to get her husband to come to pick it up tomorrow which is today I put ok sounds good and then at 1:48 pm she messages me to say Wanna have a girls night out and go eat? and I said today? and she said at 3 pm or 4 pm and she said ya today which was yesterday and I wrote I thought your husband had to work later on? but I noticed that she was taking a while so then she put he's still working that her friend was getting her and that she wanted me to meet her friend so we can do more stuff together and I'm like in my head that doesn't sound right at all. even my mom was like if she wants to go out she can come to get her wallet so I wrote im busy tonight but if u want to come by and pick up your wallet, you can. She never replied back ended up finding out she never went out with her friend It was just an excuse to get me to go give her wallet back to her because everything doesn't make sense, you tell me that you need to go do school work and then your husband is working and can't come to get it when she could of then out of nowhere she wanted to hang out like wtf. I don't want to message her because I know she's gonna make me go take it to her and I don't have time for it. Do I wait till she messages me about the Wallet or just wait to see if she cares? I need advice
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Seems a strange attitude, you have to consider what you wish to do. Personally it seems she wants to drag you to Her home without any good reason.
You could of course post the thing too her, or just leave it for Her to pick up at your home especially when you Mother is around. I am very suspicious and it would worry me that she could turn around and say money was missing and you be blaimed for taking it. You could of course possibly drop it of at a Police Station and that may protect your own interests.
Sad to say I would not trust Her, Leaving or putting the wallet in your bag could be intensional with an suspicious intent.
Was there much money inside, be careful !!!
BOB
No there is no money in the wallet, she told me but she does have her driver's license and her i.d in the wallet but good thing there is no money.
I think you handled it very well. Some people like to use other people and she sounds like a user. Then there are other people who think they are more important than others and want other people to go out of their way for them and do the unpleasant jobs. You did not allow yourself to get caught up in this, so good for you. I would just tell her that she can pick up the wallet any time it is convenient for her, but that you will be pretty busy and will not be able to drop it off. You don't need to give any further reasons or excuses. A good way to put this, when she asks you to drop it off is for you to say "that won't work for me." PERIOD. x
Thank you, that's what I have been saying to her but she doesn't believe me or she still tries to get me to go down there and it's annoying but today she never asked about her wallet so it just seems like she doesn't care about it at all when it has her drivers license and her id in it, if left my wallet in my friend bag or something I would go get it and not make up excuses not to get it but for some reasons, she has a thousand reasons and all of them are lies. Plus why should I waste my gas on her, I gave her a chance to meet me halfway meaning it would be kinda close to me and kinda close to her but no she doesn't want to do that so it's in her hands now.
Weird. It’s on her though. Who knows…there could be a good reason she doesn’t want to go to her neighborhood which she doesn’t want to say. We spend a lot of time trying to figure out why when it just isn’t worth it. You just go down a rabbit hole of assumptions that could be wrong. Probably are wrong.
If you happen to be going somewhere closer to her place you could offer to meet her. Might not feel “good” but it is a nice thing to do without a lot of effort. Otherwise just say you are busy.
To be honest I don't want to be responsible for her wallet and like I get that gas isn't cheap but either way she has to come this way for work so why not just pick it up.
I meant if you are going to be in the area anyway to just let her know so she can meet you. It is a fine line between being perplexed and being punitive. Have you asked her that question? I’m not taking her side. I just think there is usually something behind such behavior.
I never go into her area that's why I asked her if she can at least meet me halfway plus like she works so she is barely at home as it is, like tomorrow ill be kinda close to her area but I know she gonna be at work so she either needs to meet me halfway or she can come to my house and get it. I just barely started driving and I don't want her to take advantage of that because she will.
You’re assuming. Just say you will be at such and such at such and such a time and let her do with it what she will. The benefit to you is you no longer have that wallet.
I wonder if you could drop it at the police? Just thought of that. Then at least you don’t have her id anymore.
OK this is way sketchy. If I couldn’t find my wallet for 15 minutes I would be jumping through hoops calling stores driving wherever I had to go to locate my wallet. She’s playing a game. I don’t understand what she’s playing, but you don’t want to be in the middle of it.
I would not trust this woman. I would strongly encourage you to send a text to her immediately detailing what’s in the wallet. “Janice, just so we’re clear there’s no money in your wallet and I do see your drivers license but not any credit cards. I do see your library card and a yogurt membership punchcard. I’ll hold onto it until you’re able to come by and pick it up.” This way you have documentation & whether she responds back or not, you have identified the contents. She can’t then come back in six months (or next week) and say you stole $500 out of her wallet. Or that her credit card is missing.
Something seriously weird is going on here and you don’t need to get yanked into the middle of it.
Good luck
hey, it's her fault that she forgot so it's her place to come get it so I wouldn't stress out or worry about it anymore.
Just curious why she asked you to put it in your backpack to begin with. Didn't she have a bag? I don't go out just carrying my wallet. Maybe some people do. Anyway it's her responsibility to come get it. You put the word friend in quotes. How good of a friend is this?
I think there is something deeper going on here. Perhaps her husband is over dominant and he doesn't like her leaving the house? When you were together, did she seem relaxed or anxious? It could be a cry for help. Hang onto the wallet and say that she can call around when it's convenient, you could have a coffee and a sandwich or something and have a natter, no pressure. Just be there for your friend because it sounds like she really needs you right now.
It's really her responsibility. Why not just wait until you plan a get-together, like you just had, and offer to return it to her then? If you haven't got transport/if she lives some distance away, it's not up to you to take the trouble unless you are passing.
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