How to stop feelin envious and jealous of others

[karlou5455]

Does anyone have help for me as a 67 year old single woman who is trying to retire without enough money? I am all alone and am extremely envious and jealous of friends and family with millions of dollars. I know this makes me feel miserable and I need to be thankful for what little I have. I have a chronic illness and working is a continual challenge. My prescriptions bills are so high it is hard to save money. I feel I am the black sheep of the family as I have had mental illness since a traumatic experience at the age of seven. I believe my insecurities and lack of self-confidence makes me jealous and I have been in therapy for over 50 years . I have also been on disability twice for mental hospitalizations and also hospitalizations and surgeries and Crohn's disease. Thank you for any help you can provide...I truly appreciate you all.

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My view is that envy and jealousy aren't always some nasty nasty thing that's the end of the world!

What I feel it is is that it's a sign telling you about what you want for yourself and envy of others means that you just wanted the same things but never got them.

Years ago I was jealous of those who were getting married and had talked it out with a good friend who had said how i had only wanted the same things rather than being malicious on purpose which was right.

I did get married eventually but I had to wait though same as with getting a drivers licence I also had to wait but I find I appreciate and enjoy things more when I have had to have waited for them!

Next time you feel envious be nice to yourself like you would a trusted friend saying of course you feel that way it's natural and how its not deliberate malice all you wanted was to have the same things as others and how it hurts when you dont get given the same opportunities in life as others get and how its ok to feel jealous.

[karlou5455 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, Catgirl1976, for your wonderful insight and for replying to me. I don't feel so all alone. Take good care of yourself.

[Hidden in reply to karlou5455]

It's lovely to know that I have been able to have helped and my episodes of envy and jealousy haven't been in vain and a waste as I have learned from them.

The only things that are a waste are those when nothing has been learned from them.