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How would other people act in this situation? Not sure whether to ditch this friend.

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Been friends with this person after reconnecting with them after a 10 yr break.

Reason why we lost touch- I got dumped by a guy i really liked at the time. My friend started being friends with his new girlfriend. She used to cancel and lie about not wanting to go out and then i’d find out later, that she went out with my ex’s new girlf. bad enough being dumped and then a friend does this?! seems not v loyal and no moral compass.

fast forward a few years- we reconnect. the friendship seems to blow hot and blow cold. one meal saying we can go for a cool night out sometime, then the next minute- night out is forgotten. so i feel quite mixed about this friendship. To top it all off- i had some recent music launches at different venues. this friend decides to bypass any of the launches despite one of the venues being their favourite haunts-& they have attended other music launches/gigs at same venue by other performers.

i think they come across that they are jealous of my success. why completely ignore my events?

i’m thinking of just leaving this friendship behind. would you?

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Sabbath1

Me, I would ditch them .

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friendly34 in reply to Sabbath1

thanks

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Celtic27

Hi friendly this person is not a friend as they should know better how you will react to her stab in the back tell her you are no longer her friend you will find someone who treats you like you should be treated all the best !

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friendly34 in reply to Celtic27

thank you- yes so true x

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Blueruth

you’d have to get right with the past and set boundaries. Unless they are worth all that work to you then I say move on.

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friendly34 in reply to Blueruth

thanks v true

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Sillysausage234

low blow friendly with the exes new squeeze….off with her head ….delete from contact ….just my opinion

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friendly34 in reply to Sillysausage234

thanks so much. it feels so good to hear this. it confirms what i think x

Yes, I would move on from that person. Sounds like you two are just not on the same page right now. Too much work and stress involved. You don’t deserve that. Keep working on your music launches, that’s awesome, and hope it goes well :)

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thank you. yes- think i need to surround myself around people that clap when i win. thanks for your comments x

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CL3V3R-G1RL

Leave it in the past. It is true you can out grow friendships. This seems like one. You don't need a friend who just wants to get the gossip in your life and then disappearing again. That's all they want.

Find a better friend. Your time and energy are very precious. Don't waste them on fake friends. ❤️

They don't seem interested in spending time with you, if they where interested they would.

Say goodbye....

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Midori

In a word, Leave 'em! Life is too short to worry about folk who don't have your back!

Cheers, Midori

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thanks x

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