I’m so done with therapy, they give me the same advice time after time. To think of the positive over the negative. At this point it’s literally wading through mounds of crap to get a sliver of good. I’m thinking of canceling this week because I just can’t handle the same advice to my same problems while nothing gets better. Maybe I need a new therapist? The only problem is that it took me a very long time to become comfortable with them and I’m worried about starting that process over again.
In my last post I asked for distractions, and I’ve tried but I feel afraid to lose myself in them. To allow myself to forget my problems and sadness because it’s always worse when it sets back in after being happy for a little while.
Does anyone else feel this way?
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I definitely feel that way sometimes . I do think that you need a new therapist. A therapist that helps you and gives you good coping mechanisms some breathing techniques and all that good stuff ☺️ Lots of kindness love and support to you 🙏
I would do the same as Hiba suggests and find a new therapist. I would try meditation and exercise to keep you distracted.
Don’t quit…take a pause. It is a lot like exercise. Every once in a while you need to switch it up. You already have structure in that therapy schedule. Hidden brain is an excellent podcast with innovative life 2.0 ideas. That might be a great place to start. Also, a wandering mind is incredibly healthy and something modern society has been losing. It is where your brain comes up with creative ideas and connects events in your life. There are a lot of solid studies on this. So a good way to practice might be to take that hour long session time and walk….no phone. No music. Be open to wherever it leads you.
To follow up…our life is a complete distraction. Distraction is fine but it is way out of balance. Your phone with all its notifications is designed to keep you distracted. Games are designed to hook you with dopamine. Social medias inherit design of scrolling down is all about distraction, even on this forum. Take a look at my advice and make it your own. You don’t need distraction. That is just wasting your life.
How about talking to your therapist about how you feel about your therapy, that you don't feel like it's helping and why. Perhaps you two can come up with a different approach to your treatment. Give it some time, then if that doesn't work maybe seek out a new therapist. How long have you been seeing your present one??? Remember, whatever problems you're working on aren't going to go lessen overnight, it takes time... take it from a seasoned 'veteran' of all this... many decades. Take care and hop it works out for you!!
Think how long it took you to feel the way you do and this will give you a good idea of how long therapy might take to help you. It's not something which you can help much in a few months, or even a year or 2 sometimes.
I do think you should carry on with it but maybe find a new therapist.
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